Positivemessylove's reply history at Help.com

I don’t know what to tell you. Being miserable is…miserable. I wish I could ask you why you were so miserable but I feel like that is a very complicated question with a very long answer. So - in hopes that in some way my advice or words may be the slightest encouraging or helpful, I sincerely hope you end this battle with yourself someday and someday soon. And coming out on the other side of the battle alive - and deeply and immensely happy. Suicide is not the answer. Life is worth living. Change is an unstoppable force. But letting it happen is a choice. Fighting change is a choice. Creating change is a choice. So make all the necessary sacrifices you need - whether it be people or job or circumstance - in hopes it will help you down the road.

Life has a dark side. Correct choices bring us to the light. Struggling is a part of the battle.

[quote southern_comfort]You are trying to read into this way more than you should. Don’t judge a guy solely on the number of family and friends he introduces you to. I once had a coworker that had every family member of her fiance over to the house at least 2-3 times a month. She asked me if she should install a revolving door in the front foyer. And she was serious!

Be happy with your relationship the way it is. Why look for invisible monkey wrenches to throw into the mix?[/quote]

I’m not judging him or thinking less of him. I’m just worrying. But i’m not throwing wrenches, just wondering if there is a problem that I haven’t realized yet. But thank you for your reply.

[quote mindhealer][quote] If I was such a great girl? I just feel like if he really thought I was a great girl, he would WANT for us to be friends.[/quote]

Nope, you are such a great person, and I’m sure he knows/feels that way. Meeting parents must be a different issue entirely.[/quote]

Thank you :) I wish so.

Too bad both of our parents are out of town tomorrow. Sigh.

Ha! Good one.

[quote mindhealer]Maybe he doesn’t have a comfortable relationship with his parents.[/quote]

I thought about that before…maybe that’s why. He seems to have a good relationship with his mom. His dad he never talks about.

[quote khanum]How can I do that. My husband & my mother in law has eaten me up[/quote]

maybe you should find a little getaway time..

Take a break.

Just keep your head up - things will change.

sounds…like a mess.

I was like this. Am like this still. Anxiety is a powerful fear of just about anything. For some of us, it’s a fear of speaking around to directly to others. Proclaiming ourselves. We are insecure and shy. But…no reason to be. Think of how you like the outgoingfulness of others. and boldness..And you know that there isn’t any reason to be shy..but you still are.

Try to put yourself into safe situations which will have good results. Join an art club, book club, sport.
But know your limits. Don’t push yourself too far.

1.People in the art department of my college
2.People that I work with
3.My family
4.My two best friends
5.My amazing boyfriend, who probably makes me smile the most.

[quote Space Weaver]Fear leads to bad outcomes, not being confident enough leads to failure. Always face challenges with courage and determination. A very wise quote I heard recently:

“There will be no fear or uncertainty, only pride and strength will show through.”[/quote]

Of course they did :) I didn’t ask about them because I understood you. However the others confused me, but now I think I understand. Thank you for your reply :)

Anxiety.

Jeez. You have a girlfriend right now - if you don’t want to be with her then break up with her. If you aren’t going to leave her for your ex then stop caring about your ex. I don’t care if she was your “first love” - first loves always suck. always. I mean, you are just so much in love with her because she was the first person you were really in love with. Stop living in the past and see the future. Why are you with the person you are with now, and why are you not with her anymore?
Hmmmmm.

ideas on how to start or what to write?