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• (1 vote) When being intimate with my partner, my mind wanders.
  

  Try engaging all the senses and paying attention to them. So sight and touch you have. You said you’re not vocal, so that leaves taste and smell. Improvise! Kissing could do for taste, and as for smell you could get some incense, or aromatherapy oil, or just plain perfume that turns you on. I would suggest romantic music but it could make you wander off even further!
  
  But really, nothing wrong with wandering off if it makes you happy and he doesn’t mind/notice.
  
  - written 10 months, 2 weeks ago – voted for by hypp

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• So my girlfriend tells me I’m everything she has ever dreamed of, which is great, you can’t get a better boost then that.
  

  She is not over her past. I think she doesn’t appreciate you as much as you deserve. And you gotta know-she will always have a bond with her ex, no matter what kind of a person he is. They were together for 8 years, that’s a long time, AND they have a child together.
  
  You can give her time, separate yourself from her and see what she does. Be prepared to let her go if she doesn’t come back.
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago

• i hate school.
  

  My thoughts exactly in high school (and math and science were my downfall too) ‘Why should I be learning things I don’t care about, that won’t help me later in life and which are pointless?’ And the truth is, you can’t even store so much information so you are going to forget most of it when you finish high school and something else replaces them.
  
  On the other hand, some of the things I studied that I thought were stupid were of use to me later which was awkward :/ but kinda cool in the end.
  
  The point of learning so many various subjects, I guess, is that most young adults don’t know what they like and they mature later so they need that choice. And it should give you ‘a broad knowledge on every matter’. I’m not saying that is good or bad, it’s just the way it is.
  
  But you have to study what you have to study and just try to get into college. We have all gone through it so you are not alone.
  
  Hope you feel better now :)
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago

• How often do you take a bath each day?
  

  If it’s really hot I shower even 2-3x/day but only once with soap or shower gel (I read too much scrubbing can be bad for the skin). If it’s normal weather then 1x/day is ok. At worst at winter I skip a day if I’m feeling lazy. And I almost never bathe, it just bores me to death.
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago

• How often do you take a bath each day?
  

  A bath would be soaking yourself in a tub and a shower would be… well a shower, I guess :D
  
  http://crashcromwell.hubpages.com/hub/Body-hygiene–Which-is-healthier-and-cleaner-shower-or-bath_1
  - written 9 months, 1 week ago

• Is it fair to assume that many athletes in the Olympics are using drugs?
  

  [quote MarlinTheFish]
  I feel that competition is overly prioritized in today’s culture. people care too much about sporting events. the doping scandals do not surprise me. those athletes are under a lot of pressure to deliver. and the pros (football, baseball, etc) make some serious dough. the whole pro industry does. the Olympics are something of a convenient symbol for decadence, willful ignorance and political powerlessness.
  
  but I also find the Olympics to be terribly boring.[/quote]
  
  Some actually think (along with myself) that today’s amateur and recreational sporting competitions have the true sport spirit. The professional athletes are under a lot of pressure, some have to feed their families, others just have to live up to the sponsors expectations, not to mention the fans and viewers who expect nothing more than miracles. There is also the disappointment of underachieving. All this makes them use performance-enhancing drugs.
  
  The thing is that taking part is no longer the most noble thing. Winners go down in history. The rest don’t. It’s a lot of pressure. If you want to see what it takes to make an Olympian try watching this, it’s not bad http://www.youtube.com/playlist?annotation_id=annotation_101902&feature=iv&list=PL26BEC571FADBC2CD&src_vid=HbhzLI-vNjE
  - written 9 months, 3 weeks ago

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