2012-08-28 08:23:57 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
Update. She has gotten an apartment and will be moving out this thursday morning. This was supposed to be a cover affair but a customer of mine came in and tipped me off. So I now had the moving truck time. From there I now know where and what the full plan was. She wants to stick me with the house and the second on the house. She thinks I will not be able to pay all the bills for the house and will fail. What she does not know is as soon as she leaves the house the locks will be changed and I will be filing for temporary spousal & child support while the divorce is in progress. She likes to live above her means and this apartment is no exception. She got it in the rich part of town and the rent is more than our house payment. She will break even after paying all her bills and paying me just child support. If she has to pay me spousal she will be up you know what creek. She thinks if I get the house she can walk away from half the debt owed over the value (not the case I found out). So I think she will be in for a shock when this gets to the good stuff. In the mean time I will have the house & the kids every other week as of now. In the end who knows.
2012-08-23 10:46:46 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
UPDATE! I pulled up her phone bill and she has been talking & texing an old friend from High School who lives in another state. 5147 texts in 1 month. Talk 3-5 hours a day. So I saw she was talking to him on her way to & from work so I recorded the days events and she has been having and emotional affair and they have be having phone sex. She told him she loves him several times. Divorce is for sure now. I just wish she had come to me and told me. Things could have gone so different. Now I have to watch my back because she was talking about getting a restraining order on me and taking the kids and getting an apartment. I’m playing catch up big time now.
2012-08-22 08:58:32 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
Well things turn back to no good. She is turning mean and I think I am over her. I gave it my best shot and will continue to work on being a better me but she has too many issues she is not willing to work on. We need to go our own ways at this point in life. Who knows about the future. Right now every thing I do gets her going and it is exhausting both physically & emotionally. I want to still be friends but now she is so angry all the time that I don’t know if that is possible. Thanks for all your help and advice.
2012-08-15 12:36:42 on Were an hour away, can friends still be best friends an hour away?
My best friend live 2 hours away and We have been best friends since 2nd grade. We are now 35/36 years old and we see each other a few times a year and every time we just pick up right where we left off. So yes it can work. You can also have more than one best friend.
2012-08-15 12:11:07 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
Well I decided when I need a lawyer I know which one I will be using. He answered all my questions and even gave me some advice during my consult. Now it’s a hurry up & wait type of thing. For the past 2 days She has been coming with me on a 5am morning 3 mile walk and we have been talking more. She say she wants to come with me every morning so I guess that is a good thing. She still wants a divorce at this point but at least we are talking more so I guess we’ll just have to see where that goes as time goes on. I’m still heartbroken and want things to work out, i guess I’ll just have to see how counseling goes tonight.
2012-08-14 12:13:32 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
ok so She started filing on friday and closed out one of our accounts. She has also stated she now wants the house. She also says she still wants to go to counseling with me. Not sure where this is all going but I am meeting with a few lawyers today just in case. I have not been served or notified of it yet but she informed me of what was coming over lunch that friday.
Keep you all posted
2012-08-10 09:16:27 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
Yes we did tell the kids and it was not easy for either of us. We told them last week. Her & I sat down before we talked to them and got our game plan together. The kids are ok (well as ok as a 11 & 13 year old can be) and I talk to them daily.
So we both went to the counselor and she came 10 minutes late. She was very angry and just wanted to blast me in front of the therapist. I kind of knew that was going to happen. By the end we were talking more & seeing how we both have issues. She said that night that she still wants to get divorced and she will try to find a place by the end of the month. That was Wednesday at about 8:00 pm. We went home and she did not talk to me at all. I saw she was heading up to bed so I told her I loved her and she broke down in tears and ran upstairs. She said she did not want to talk to me and had locked herself in her room. I gave her her space and the next morning she had to leave early since she was getting her crown fixed. Would not talk to me at all yesterday and only said she will talk to me at therapy. Now the therapist gave us homework which I want to do since it is communication skills about listening. That night I went in just to get my toothbrush (I use the bathroom after she is done most days) and I asked her if she was ok. she burst in to tears and I tried to hold her and she told me to just get out and asked why I couldn’t I have made this much effort before all of this. I tried to talk to her but she just wanted me to get out so I did. She cried for like the next 2 hours. It killed me to hear her in pain and not being able to hold & comfort her. Today she slept in and went in to work late. I needed my towel & shampoo and it took my daughter to ask her before she would open the door. I don’t know what this all means but it’s killing me that she is hurting like this. Is it a good or bad thing she is crying?
2012-08-08 08:09:33 on My wife wants a divorce after 18 years.
My wife has always been the kind of woman who once her mind is made up she will stick to her decisions, right or wrong she is too prideful to ever admit she was wrong and will live with the consequences OK so that was what Her family & I are all thinking too. None of us get it. My wife has always been the kind of woman who once her mind is made up she will stick to her decisions, Even when wrong she is too prideful or stubborn to ever admit she was wrong and will live with the consequences. The appointment with the counselor is today and she says she will show. Not sure how it’s going to go but I guess we’ll see this afternoon. I’ll keep you all posted.
2012-08-06 11:01:15 on So i’ve been dating this guy for a while and
Just tell him how you feel. Despite what he may be expecting to hear if he’s in to you as well then he should be happy. Love is a strong word that gets thrown around way to easily these days and if it continues it will mean nothing in the years to come.
2012-08-06 10:59:08 on I had sex with my bf for the first time, and we used
from what you say the chances are slim. There is always that .00001% chance even with all the precautions in the world. The only 100% way is to not have sex.
2012-08-06 10:49:53 on My boyfriend watches porn.
Not if it’s anything illegal. Otherwise as long as he is not neglecting you, his job/school, or any other duties I don’t see a problem. If he is stuck on it 24/7 then yeah he has a big problem. Years ago my wife bought me a playboy subscription, I never really looked at them, some I never even opened but it was nice to know she was not a prude.
2012-08-06 10:45:46 on Why does our society hold confidence to be so important?
Confidence as in keeping secrets, Faith in something or someone or Self confidence?
You should do something to get out of your routine. Maybe join a singles group that does activities once or twice a month. Also like said above get a pet (dogs are good since it will require you to go for walks and you may even make friends at a dog park if you have one it the area. You need to step out of your box you have constructed. Ask your self what you have always wanted to try or to do but were to afraid or shy to do. It’s easy to live within our bubble. No matter where you live there are groups of people who meet up for different reasons, religion, hobbies, other interests, etc.. Find something you are interested in and give it a shot.
2012-08-06 10:27:13 on I’m so sick of my mother.
It can go 2 ways. First you try to talk with her about all of this and let the chips fall as they may things may get better or they may just stay the same. Second put in your time bite your lip and as soon as you turn 18 or whatever the legal age is in your state get a job and a place to stay and move out.
Talk to him, you will never make it without communication.