Maximina's reply history at Help.com

I could really use a sexy vampire tonight!! I have had a rough week!

Hey lilies! It has been a long time. How are those sexy vampires?

Hey Sans. I have not posted on here in forever, but I saw this post and couldn’t resist. Like you I resisted getting a facebook for a long time. The first person who harassed me about getting one was actually a friend from here, but once my family started to harass me I gave in. Now that I have it, it is really the only place I socialize online. It has people from everytime period it my life, from early childhood to the present, and even three help friends. One of my FB friends is a little kitty we both adore. Anyways you really should get one, it is a nice way to keep in touch with people and to see what they are up to. Out of my seven siblings, five have a FB and almost all my cousins have one, so it is even a nice way to keep in touch with family. Since this post is already a month old, you might already have one, if not you should. Anyways, I hope all is well.
Max

I can’t believe I wrote that! Wow it sounded more like a crush than I remember. I remembered it being more about admiring TJ, than talking about how sexy his writing was. Even two years later, I still stand by the words I wrote, but now I am offically out of the closet. I am now proud to admit I am his internet stalker. ;)

Hey ndis. This is my first reply in like 5 months, but I saw your invite and couldn’t resist saying hello. I stopped coming here about 6-7 months ago. My life has just become to busy and I have little time for the internet. I moved back the Chicagoland area in June and currently live in a northwest burb. Moving back was one of the best decisions I have ever made. There is nothing like “Sweet Home Chicago.” I hope your health has improved and that all is wonderful in your world.

It is time for me to go. Please take care or yourself and each other. This post was never meant to get people to beg me to stay, say nice things about me, nor was it about me being upset. I am leaving on a very positive note. This chapter in my life is closed. This place has changed my life in away that I could not explain. It is a magical place, but every journey comes to an end. Peace Out!
Max

[quote TheJDevil]bye…=( i wish you good luck and happiness for the rest of your life.[/quote]

Thanks! :) I wish you the best.

[quote i love Tigger!!!!!!!]bye!!!! =`( i hope u have a good life!! dnt miss us too much ;`) have fun watching Lost ;)[/quote]

I can’t wait for January! :) I hope you have many adventures!

[quote 2greeneyes]Oh Maxima,
You sure you need to leave? Look how many are here and like and respect you. Do you realize that unintentionally you are leaving us with a feeling of “there goes another one” A loss of a good person and a helper that has a heart of gold for so many that need it?
Max there are many of us left, why not give us a chance? Keep your prioritys of course, just dont fade out altogether. Give it a thought, hate to loose you and of course respect your choice.[/quote]

I am not leaving because others have, but rather others leaving have made me realize I am have not really been here in a while. I just really feel I need to focus on other things. It is not that I spent much time here the last few months, but that if I can’t commit to being a member of this community it is time for me to go. Maybe one day I will come back, but I suspect it will be a long while. You are truly an amazing person and those live you touch are blessed. I am leaving with the highest respect and love for everyone who I have met here and I feel going out on a very positive note.

[quote Marylou]Maxi, I don’t know you a whole lot. I know that you are one of the sweetest around, a really nice and thoughtful person. I come to this website still, after trying to leave twice already because of people like you!

I think our friends on this post have said it all already but let me just add this much. Many times a day, I think about the people on this website, those on my friends lists, all of you sweet people I wish nothing but the best for and care for dearly. But we also all have our personal lives and our own little struggles so sometimes, you might find us too busy to even log in. That doesn’t mean that we don’t still care. My e-mail is open to my friends and they are welcomed to write me anytime at all! I guess most often, time is was is missing. We all wish we had more time to give and share with those we love…

If you go now, I know for sure, you will be missed so much. Think about it.
But if you do, please come back and say hi to those who matter, from time to time…

Take care, my sweet. :)[/quote]

Thank you for your kind words. I have read enough of your replies to know that you are a great person who is highly loved and respected on this site. The close friends who I have made here can email me anytime. This past year as been one of many changes and at this time I have too many other things I need to focus on. I don’t have time to help like I use to, but I am ok with that because my occupation is all about helping teens who have serious issues, so I know I am still doing my part. Thank you for you advice. Please keep spreading the love and hope! :)

[quote 2greeneyes]Hi Max,
Im sorry to hear you are leaving. I hope you are able to come back and check in. I am thankful for the friends I met here. Seen many go as well. It does give you a feeling of loss. Life is a constant change, and as you know change isn’t always pleasant.
I think maybe many find it wearing with the depression and the struggle of trolls. Most of all I think the economy, has many depressed, and it can make you feel hypocritical. But survival is literally screaming. Some have, or are about to loose everything. Some are so busy looking for a job after loosing thiers.
I wish you well Max and hope that you can find a happy thought of your friends on help. I understand your hurt, and Im sorry someone special to you did not say goodbye. I have had this very same feeling and I know it is a let down when you thought you connected with someone and they just faded, Im sorry Max, and good luck to you. I hope you will stop by sometime and say howdy, and I appreciated you inviting me to your goodbye, that was thoughtful of you in your pain. Goodbye Max and good luck out there.[/quote]

He didn’t need to say goodbye because we are still friends, it just was seeing him gone on here that triggered something in me that was inevitable anyways. It was just a reminder that I am not really here any more anyways, so why not make it official. He will remain my friend. I did break down when I seen he was gone, but that was only because I was reminded of all his words that have been so helpful to me. He was the person who knew me best here and he helped me make one of the best decisions of my life. He was one of the people who defined this place for me. I don’t mention his name because I know he is trying to be removed from here, but those who know me best know exactly who he is. Over the last couple of weeks others have left that also defined it for me. You green are definitely a person I consider to be a HUGE assets to this place and you define what is so lovely about it. I hope you continue to keep people laughing and warming their hearts through your words. I wish you all the best! :)

[quote Trampy (LostPilgrim)]Goodluck[/quote]

Thanks! I wish you the best of luck too! :)

[quote - Fourthings -]People vanish online, it’s a hazard of online socializing. I’m always here, though, don’t feel you can’t come back because you’ve made this post.[/quote]

Thanks fourthings that means a lot. You are a cool guy!

[quote seas light]You will be deeply missed :([/quote]

Thanks, I will deeply miss all of you!

[quote {Felicity}]When I first replied I had hoped you would change your mind, now I see that may not happen :( sorry to see you go, take care and God Bless you[/quote]

Awww, thanks for trying Felicity. I promise for me it is a good thing. There are so many great helpers here, that it I know they will keep this place running. You are amazing!

[quote Luck of the Irish]Sorry to see you leave![/quote]

You know where to find me! I hope to continue to hear from you!

[quote Karma Amelia]I will miss you :(

If you ever come back, please remember me. You’ve been good to me and I really appreciate you for all that you have done.[/quote]

Thanks! You will always remain on my friends list. You will not be forgotten!

[quote molotok]Maxi!
We have not talked much lately, not as much as before. But that does not mean that I did not think of you. You have been occupied with other stuff, and so have I. I also haven’t been much on ‘help’ lately.
But don’t ever believe that I will let you off my hook!
You are awesome, and you are my friend.
I have your email, and if you change it I will find the new one!

Lots of hugs, and not-at-all goodbye!
:-)[/quote]

Thanks Molotok, you are so cute. You are my friend no matter how much we talk. You are one of my oldest friends from my earlier days here that still remains. My email will never change. Sorry I interrupted you! ;)

[quote Dr. Cuddy]I’ve seen you around since I joined, and you’ve always seemed really nice =). Sad to see you choose to go, but hopefully you’ll stop in sometimes. I wish you all the best IRL.

~Nisa[/quote]

Thanks Nisa! I wish you the best!

[quote ben_j_richard]Hi maximina you and i have spoken at times, but where never close, even tho i know exactly how you feel. and i feel like leaving too. I cant take losing people… I am s bad at it. It makes me wish that i never made so many friends on here, because they can never be as real as they feel and they leave with you wondering about them for ever more.

Maybe your solution is right, to leave before it happeneds again…..

Etierh way hun I totally understand and hugs i wish i could console you in some way.

I am sorry for the pain that you and now i feel.

Take care hun and they can always be with you in your thoughts and memories.

Hugs

Ben[/quote]

Ben, your response reminds me of an email I received recently from a close friend we have in common. I hope people like you continue to stick around this place, because your wisdom and kindness are needed. I don’t feel like I am losing anyone, but rather closing a chapter. The people I have made strong connections with here know how I feel about them and that I will be available through email if they want to communicate. I just don’t feel that coming here half a*s is the way to be any more. Although I will always wonder about the friends I have made her, so many who are gone and so many who still remain, I feel comforted knowing they will always remain in my heart!

[quote Rainbow Girl]Max, You have ALWAS been a good friend to me.Good luck in everything you do.

Love RG[/quote]

Hey you! My email is open to you if you ever need me. Don’t hesitate to use it. You have an amazing spirit and I hope that you let it soar. Please keep me updated on your family and your artistic career. You rock!

[quote Jet|ImNoLongerAstray]bye maxmina!
:)
I wish you the best of luck and the greatest of happiness, you deserve it![/quote]

Thanks Jet! I have always enjoyed your spirit here at help. You deserve it too!

[quote tricky]i know what you mean, at some point you have to face the reality of some matters, it’s like real friendship or non at least this is how i think… but you have to know when the time is right… if the time is right and you have the energy to keep going on without help.com i think you should go for it and not ever look back… i wish you the best of luck and i hope everything goes well with you… you are really a gr8 person ^_^ keep that going on for ^_^… if you need to come back we are here for you ^_^…[/quote]

Thank you! Tricky your kinds words and support mean a lot. My non virtual World takes up so much time, I just don’t have anything left to give help. My job is about helping, so I think outside of it I need to focus on me for a while.
Thanks :)

[quote cookies and cream]Goodbye Max :(
*tries to regain a calm composure*
I’ll miss you, I hope everything goes well for you :)
*wails*[/quote]

My dear cookies who I will ALWAYS adore. My email is open to you if you ever need it. You are one person I may be tempted to come back and check up on. You may be one of the cutest people on the face of the earth. I will miss you as well. I would love to hear from you via email!
*huge hugs*

[quote Anubis]Bye Max. I also have had a similar experience. Although to be fair, from both sides of the coin. I tried to avoid someone who became too full on and freaked me out a bit. But also I have made real connections here. But the person I thought I had the strongest connection with, let me down, lied about me (although they don’t know that I know!) and now just blanks me, and all for no reason I can think of. Maybe I deserved it, in fact knowing what a prat I can be at times I probably do. But it hurts, just like it would anywhere, being on the internet doesn’t soften the blow much.

But it also made me put this site into perspective. There are very genuine, lovely people on here whom you can go on to have ‘real life’ friendships with, but I take most people with a pinch of salt, and try not to get too emotionally attached. So I can completely understand why you are leaving, and all I can say is that I hope everything goes well. Take care :)[/quote]

Thank you for your thoughtful words. I had a friend on here a long time ago who clearly turned out to be something he was not, but I was not that close to him. However, the situation taught me to be careful who I make friends with and the information I give out. The friend I mentioned in my post will ALWAYS be my friend. He is one of the greatest people I have met, even if it is only virtual. I was not upset with him leaving. It was his leaving made me face the fact that I am not here any more and have not been for a long time. When I come to find so many invites I can’t possible respond to, I sort of feel guilty, so if I am not a part of help any more I might as well make it official. My friend leaving the site is good news and I couldn’t be happier for him. I hope he does not come back because I think it will signify he is on the right path.

[quote Max]Hey Maxy:) One of my friends were asked by the software if they wanted to remove me(like a system auto thing). Just a thought that maybe it wasn’t done on purpose or with any real thought. This is a virtual world and of coarse the relationships can’t be real. lol..it would really screw us up if it were…lol. I have witnessed first hand the good you spread and how you share heart felt replies:) Do what you need to do, but please never forget that some here will remember how kind you really are. The net period seems to make us into introverts and I sometimes wonder if it steals our face time:) Like anything else….requires moderation and a good skill with the tags and posts:)
One Max to another….I got your back:)[/quote]

I am actually VERY extroverted in real life, but in the past this place has been a distraction from responsibilities. I am so grateful for all the friends I made here and all the people who have touched my heart. This pace has been such a blessing to my life, but all good things come to an end. I also think it has taught me to communicate through written language more efficiently. I do believe friendships formed here are real, but they are rare and take a long time. I would say that I can think of at least three people I know for sure I will keep in contact with, but I am hoping there are more. Max I have always appreciated your consistent and thoughtful participation on help. And although you and I were not close friends, we have ended up on so many of the same posts. Keep being you, because you are wonderful.

[quote Sasha101]Im sorry to see you leave Maximina, I didn’t get to know you real well , but a few of your replies when I first came told me enough to know you are a valid member of this little community. Your replies were full of knowledge and wisdom which are going to be greatly missed.
I wish you luck and happiness in everything you do, and hope to see you back one day.
~Sasha~ xx[/quote]

Thanks Sasha :) I wish you all the happiness in the World!

[quote Nante]…

*Sigh*

I know one day will come where I am the only one here…[/quote]

Even when that day comes the site will still be amazing because you are still here! :)

[quote littlenick]I was almost about to vanish myself into the sunset. I will miss you Maxi. You are a true friend of mine![/quote]

You are my friend too! Keep being cute and feisty. Don’t ever change! :)

[quote Andi Leigh]It’s sad to see you go, we really only spoke a couple of times in political posts, but I definitely had respect for your opinions and your knowledge. The best of luck in everything you do.[/quote]

Thanks. I wish we would of had a chance to get to know each other. The best of luck to you too!

[quote beatricegalant]Maximina, it is sad that you decided to leave. You are such a wonderful person, you helped so many people and you contributed so much in here. Even though you don’t feel it or know it but people here will really miss you and your wisdom and advice. Take good care of yourself and all the best for you too! I WILL MISS YOU![/quote]

:) Thanks for the kind words! I wish you the best too!