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I can’t see what the problem is, you look pretty hot to me. In this day and age, you need to be a little more outgoing. In my situation, my wife, who was somewhat of a friend and coworker early on was with someone else for 7 years. They eventually had a falling out and split up, and one day she came up to me and made it pretty obvious that she would like to get to know me better. I was flattered, floored, and pretty much blown away by her approach. She didn’t ask me out for a date, but it was pretty clear that she was interested in me. I asked her out to lunch, we had a great time conversing with each other, then before too long after a blurr of many dates and get togethers we almost unspokingly became boyfriend and girlfriend. A year later, we eloped to Vegas and have been married for 11 years now. My advise to you, if you see someone you like and would like to know more about him, make the first move and direct the flow of things. If this person is interested in you, it will be pretty obvious. And by doing this it doesn’t mean you are promiscuous and just looking for a one night stand. The non-committal question of “what do you like to do in your free time for entertainment” goes a long way for fact finding about the persons likes and also is a good hint at intentions. Most guys would love a woman to be more upfront taking the guess work out of the situation. Also, looking the way that you do, most guys would think you might already be taken. You have to declare otherwise. Ask someone out for coffee, lunch, etc. The worst answer you’ll get is no so who cares. If you showed interest in me and I was available, I’d certainly take you up on the offer without a doubt. Even if you don’t hit it off with a particular person, you might end up with a new friend at the very least. Take a chance, you’re HOT so go for it. Ask the questions you want to ask, don’t be shy. Some lucky guy will love you for it for the rest of your life. You may have to try a few out before you find the right one for you, but that is the adventure! Life is to short to wait around for someone to come your way. Seek and ye shall find!! Go for it girl!! You have nothing to worry about. You’re a HOT babe with intelligence. You can’t go wrong.