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• I wrote awhile back about my boyfriend and I having problems and I think I’ve figured something out. posted (2 years, 6 months) ago
  I’ve been seeing a therapist, and between what she and I discuss, what I’ve recently le…

• My boyfriend of 2 years and I are having some problems. posted (2 years, 7 months) ago
  We love eachother very very much, but we just can’t seem to get our stuff together! I’…

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• Argh!
  

  nobody is going to tell you to kill yourself, unless they aren’t all there, and you shoulden’t listen to them anyway.
  Don’t leave school. Stick it out and call it a life lesson. Learn something from it, like how not to over react and get ahold of your temper. I understand why you are upset/pissed, but candp is right, the world isn’t going to accommodate you. You need to figure out how to deal with getting your feeling hurt from time to time and how to deal with people saying things that you don’t like. I understand that this phrase is something hurtful b/c of “what happened to you as a child”, but maybe you should learn to get past that. Don’t let things from your past rule the rest of your life, go to couseling and figure out how to get over it.
  As for the girl, I’d say just walk away and don’t let it bother you. You both could have handled things a little better, but its over now. She doesn’t want to be with you, you need to say, ok, and let it go, even if it hurts. She did at least say she wanted to be friends, so she didn’t hate you. If you feel like you need to say something to her or anyone (like your friends) just say, “I know things were a bit hairy, we both could have handled it more gracefully, but whats done is done, and I don’t hate her”. You don’t hate her, your just mad. I can’t blame you, she acted immaturely, but only in response to the way YOU reacted. Next time, don’t get mad and throw a fit, just accept it, or try to (calmly) talk to the girl about why, but don’t throw a fit.
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• well a bunch ofkids have there own language and i wanted to make one up with only 1 friend=( I am not popular at school.
  

  An entire language? Wow, thats impressive… or very sad. It means this group of kids have nothing better to do with their time than create, memorize, and teach other friends their very own language! A language usually takes lifetimes to create, and is so ever changing that we all need to buy a new dictionary every 3-4 years (or less).
  I say Xeno Dragon is right, inside jokes and inuendos are much more fun, easier, and ultimately will have the same effect on others. Thet still won’t know what you’re talking about and feel left out. Only, with inside jokes, the great part is you get to laugh, and they get even more upset about being left out of that!
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• Adjusting to life without employment after a few weeks.
  

  Richhills and Bex are right! You have a GREAT attitude and drive to be going through what you are, just don’t let time get you in a rut! After time really starts to pass (I hope it doesn’t take that long) you’ll start feeling hopeless and down, but trying to get volunteer work or something is a good way to keep yourself up! I like that you have a routine where you spend “X” amount of time looking for a job, and “X” amount of time exercising, etc. Thats great, it will help you stay focused. I do think you should look into a temp agency, it will work you, get you out of the house, socialize you, and even if the pay is crappy, its better then nothing! They will be constantly on the look out for another job for you (thats THEIR job) and you can even tell them that you really are just looking for something to keep you outta the house and in a social situation until you find the “right” job.
  Good luck!
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• I need friendship help.
  

  Don’t take sides if you don’t want to. If you do, and they make up, you’re the one who took sides. I have friends that don’t get along/like each other, but I don’t care. I just hang out with one sometimes and the other sometimes. Just means I go out 2 times for dinner with a friend rather than 1 time!
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• So I consistently have dreams about this guy who is not my boyfriend.
  

  I think oster.gar is right (again). Your dreams are just you unspoken desires. When you let something like that mount up inside of you, it has to come out somewhere! Your dreams are the safest way to let them out, unless you talk in your sleep. :) Just take a nice hard look at this, wait and see what happens. If your boyfriend is getting in the way of you love life, then maybe he shouldn’t be in it. Especially with him going to another school. But, if you aren’t ready to rush into something, then don’t! You have time!
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

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