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• When i try to play a CD on my laptop, the music plays really slow, and the whole system slows down too.. posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
  it didn’t use to be like that.. can anyone help? I use Windows XP and Windows Media Player v 1…

• sunburn! posted (2 years, 2 months) ago
  on my back, on my shoulders, this sunday i went to the swimming pool, I WAS OK, but just now after …

• why do some clothes shrink at the drying machine? posted (2 years, 4 months) ago
  and… how can I fix them ?? lol.…

• Can u give me advice of some cool BOOKS? posted (2 years, 5 months) ago
  In about 2 months I’m probably moving for work to a very remote place.. and I want to take s…

• Thanks! posted (2 years, 5 months) ago
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• Job in England: Can anyone tell me if a net income of 870 GBP/month is enough to have a decent living for a single 25 year old guy? posted (2 years, 6 months) ago
  I have already discounted the job and health taxes. Thank you so much guys.…

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mauri's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (3 votes) The List
  

  You can have a person that means everything to you, but if you don’t act in life and towards that person like it is that important… you lose them. The actions more than the words is what really matters.
  
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago – voted for by juliabell, crestfallen, spiritedsoul

• (1 vote) Lost Love.
  

  look… i´m sorry but you are wrong my friend, whatever person you think you´ve lost.. probably never existed because that person is a fantasy in your mind. What I mean is that the person might be real, but there´s no such thing as ruining a lifetime by loosing some1, nobody is that great, nobody is that good. By what you are saying all I can guess is that you just didn´t have time to really get to know that person and now you are thinking that your life has been ruined, I´m sorry but you are wrong my friend.
  
  Change your life to find what makes you happy, but happiness should never depend on being or not with another person, if it does, then that´s not reality, it´s fantasy and wasted time.
  
  You know what, even if that person was so wonderful, well, she ended with someone else right? you weren´t her first choice at the end, she is happy out there without you, she has lived her life without you and she has lived it well.. think about it.. good luck.
  
  - written 1 year, 10 months ago – voted for by -Camila-

• (1 vote) GOT A PROBLEM THAT IS DRIVING ME ABOSOLUTLY CRAZY!
  

  That’s what happens, that kind of love doesn’t last forever, in every succesful relationship (we can consider 3 years to be succesful) there’s a time of butterflies and charm when both feel in heaven, but then reality smacks one in the head (normally the best looking one..) and then they realise that there are other interesting ppl in the world also, so they want to explore, even if they still care for the other person, probably she will always say that she loves you because she has lived with you so many things and for so long and for such an important time of her life…
  
  But what happened is normal, even more if you both are so young.
  Don’t feel too bad, just give her the space she needs. And.. yes, she might be going out with other guys, but what can you do? She ended it right? She did it so she can do whatever she wants.. it was her choice, you have to respect it.
  
  If she ever comes back it has to be because she wants to, it has to be because she is convinced that she wants to be with you.. not because you begged, or stuff like that, give her space, and don’t suffer for it, whatever happens.. it’s for the best. You don’t want to be with a person who’s insecure right? You want a person who wants you as her first choice.. that’s the only way it really works and lasts.
  
  Respect her decision. Just don’t beg to get her back. Don’t get angry, don’t feel sad. I’m sure she really tought about it, then she decided what it was best for her, now it’s all done.
  
  Whatever happens, life is not over, yoú have still a lot to live, life still has a lot more great moments to offer, I assure you. Good luck.
  
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago – voted for by Eurydice Grey

• (1 vote) how to accept the fact that you are ugly and move on
  

  well, i don’t remember who, but some1 here once said that you can only be ugly if your face it’s been hacked by a psyco killer or if it looks like it’s been melted by lava.. lol and I fully agree.
  
  It’s not that you are really ugly, this world has lots of different ppl, and I’d say that maybe 97% of them can and do find hapiness.. it’s just a matter of time.
  
  I disagree a bit with Flo, I’d say that if u were born a gorgeous person maybe u could be different, because they get soo much attention that sometimes they get too spoiled by ppl, also it’s harder for them to find true love because ppl r normally only attracted by their looks, and then they feel pressure to always look ’stunning’ to please other ppl, so it’s all relative..
  
  Also, all the hurt u r feeling, it shapes your personality, it makes you who you are, you need pain in life to become a better person, we all do… the ppl who have been hurt the most are normally the most compassionate.
  
  Maybe it’s just a bit hard for u to socialize and all because you are afraid of rejection, and that stops you from trying to go out there and just have fun.. maybe you just need to go out more, be more active, join clubs or young ppl in any field that could interest you, or learn some martial arts, or go to a gym, get a pet to take out.. stuff like that, just be more active..
  
  Besides take a good look at yourself in the mirror, that’s who you are going to be with for the rest of your life, and that’s pretty good, because you have the legacy of your parents, and your grandparents, i mean, you are probably the product of a lot of work and struggle of lovely ppl.. you have to be proud of who you are.. maybe change what you can, maybe the way you dress, the way your hair is, but do it to please YOURSELF, do what YOU want to do, look how YOU want to look, maybe try different styles and take pictures of yourself, and find what makes you happy.. just keep trying..
  
  When u become more mature you’ll see all these times behind and you’ll see yourself happy, with a family and all.. in the end you will ALWAYS make it, just be comfortable in your own skin, **** everyone else and their opinion.. the opinion of the ppl you really love and trust is the one that matters, the rest of the ppl are irrelevant.
  
  Good luck!
  
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago – voted for by -Camila-

• (1 vote) some one give me advice.
  

  Whenever you feel like cutting, change your environment quickly, if u r alone in a room, go outside. Additionally u should start getting physical to release your anger, start working out, boxing or jogging or swimming, get a pet to cuddle, or even try painting, or writing or other ways to express your emotions.
  
  If u are asking for help that means that you love yourself enough to want to improve, and YES you do deserve all the best, you are good enough to be happy. Yes life is hard, school is hard, life after school is hard, we fall, but then we get up, but it’s all worth it, I’m sure you have people that love you just the way you are. You DON’T NEED to change to please anybody else but yourself. Look yourself good at the mirror, this is what you are, learn to love yourself, I’m sure you’ve been thru a lot, admire yourself for that. Life is worth the try, you can ALWAYS make it. We are all different, we all have it hard for sure, but every person on this planet can be happy.
  
  You REALLY must tell somebody, it would be best if it was one of your parents, or your school advisor, or a teacher, but you have to do that, maybe the problem is a bit bigger than something you can solve just by yourself. PLEASE tell somebody, or even write a note and leave it to your mother before you go to school, but ask for help please.
  
  I can also recommend, that if you believe in God, try to get to know him better, go to a church and ask to study with someone. But first, get help for yourself, don’t be afraid.
  
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago – voted for by Richard Cor de Lyon

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• Should I forgive you?
  

  there’s nothing better than leaving all the **** behind and start over again!, forget those people.
  - written 1 week, 2 days ago

• depressed, lack of motivation, sad, lack of emotions,
  

  the change will start with you being active against it, keep trying new things, that’s the key
  - written 1 month ago

• I don’t know what to do anymore.
  

  I feel for you, you’ve lived a lot & too fast, but you can’t undo the past, who else is going to take care of your children but you? you are all they’ve got.
  But leaving that alone, you are still very young, and there’s no reason why you still can’t have a fulfilling life.
  For now, you just have to hang in there, your kids are still very young and dependant from you, you’ll see in a year or 2 things will be less heavy for you.
  Have faith. You’re only 22, you still have a lot of great things and moments ahead.
  God bless
  - written 4 months, 1 week ago

• Can anyone offer any advice I’m too blind to see?
  

  I think linxya is right, but besides your sister, maybe you can also try to ask for help to the father of your child´s parents.
  - written 8 months ago

• big big financial trouble….need advice and help
  

  give us more info
  - written 8 months ago

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