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uh what? he tells people you broke his heart? jeez. talk about high maintenance. and a bit self-righteous on his part. what makes him think he’s entitled to lie to people and just have other people accept it without question? weird.
don’t care what other people think. i’ve been in similar situations before, but no matter what it’s best to be honest with yourself and with other people. if a man can’t accept that he might have been wrong without blaming you for it in some part, then he has some growing up to do.
no, im not going to take it persoanlly i shouldn’t. he eventually did say sorry. and asked if i was annoyed with him. i just told him i was in a bad mood…. which i had been most of that evening.
its just how othhers interpret things, as usual everyones going to say im being arrogant or something, when he tells people how i ‘broke his heart’ or hurt his feeling or whatever.
it was perfectly fine to call him out on it. he can get over the fact that you caught him being stupid/in a lie. i think he should have manned up and apologized for being wrong instead of making excuses. if he’s upset that he was caught doing the wrong thing and takes that out on you, that’s just another sign of his own immaturity. i wouldn’t take his bad mood personally.
thanks wild oz. i think i want to go with my instincts…. thats what i should do…. i think hes upset or something ever since i confronted him about it. but i shouldnt have to feel about that right? i haven’t done anything wrong by just asking why he did it in the first place.
lying is no joke. he straight up lied to you about your friends leaving without you? if this is true, i think that’s a MAJOR red flag. i will just state the obvious that no, you did not know he was joking with you, and even after he told the truth, you failed to find anything funny about it. i’m sure there were little warning bells that rang in your head about that, and they were right to do so. that unsafe, somethings-not-quite-right-here vibe is there for a reason.
there are a couple reasons why someone might lie or “joke” like that, and neither of them are great situations. option number one is that he’s immature, and in a stupid scramble to say something that might catch your attention, he made a stupid joke. bad sense of humor, self-conscious, immature, yes, but not malicious.
the other situation might be like you described. maybe he really is trying to manipulate you and separate you from your friends. he has no reason to be lying to you about them. when caught, he just passed it on as a “joke”.
anyone who tries to stir up crap and drama between people is not good company. anyone who tries to stir up crap and drama between friends is even worse. be careful.
hey oz, i wanted to get your opinion on something, im realy confused and i know that u give good advice on these sort of things. i’ve met a new guy, im afraid he may have some triats of a controlling personality. for example , he tried to stir up crap between me and a few friends by telling me that they’ve gone out without me somewhere which annoyed me and then afterwards said it was just a ‘joke’ and he was trying to ‘annoy me’ and he wasnt trying to stir up anything. i know abusive people are usually controlling, i’ve read that controlling men in relationships may try to steer u away from friends or family by doing this, by talking in a bad way about them or setting up rumours etc. to cause tension between them. is he just immature for doing what he did? or is that a big sign? ….also he tells me how i should ‘think’ . he says things like ‘you know i was joking with you’. this is so annoying… but i need to protetc myself i cant be hurt again :/.