Richard Cor de Lyon's reply history at Help.com

if you are wearing the wrong size bra, it can be unattractive. Bra’s are commonly worn too tight. If when you remove your bra, you have deep marks into your skin your bra is the wrong size. Generally speaking the shoulder straps are not to provide a great deal of support, but rather just to keep the bra from slipping down. A good bra provides support without the straps. Many women carry some side and back fat, this can sometimes be shifted into the cup altering the size needed the cup should carry the breasts only. If you start playing the a size 34 vs. 36 you will experience discomfort with your bra. Your chest measurements are not that flexible.

If you have never been fitted for a bra, by someone that knows what they are doing, you will probably be fairly uncomfortable for a very long time. Most bridal shops have women (and some men) that know very well, how to measure and fit a woman for a bra. I recommend you visiting a shop like that or Victoria Secrets or better yet, Fredricks of Hollywood.

My Ex, a 36D, was fastidious about her bra. She only ever bought from Fredrick where she could be sized prior to trying them on. She always looked fantastic, and was always comfortable. Yes, she paid a pri$e for that (or rather I did) but it was worth it!

Most women wear the wrong size bra.

please forgive my txt ignorance… what is QFT?? Thank you Beatrice… I agree with you. I don’t however have a sense of finality. There is a spiritual revolution happening today, and part of it is the recovery of mutual regard, respect and gratitude.

Greeneyes- Dear… I wouldn’t have expected anything less coming from you.

[quote SirTannen]Richard, do you like when teachers are high and think they deserve to keep their job because they get high at work and like to say “Heeeeeyyy maaan wanna hit of this man?” to their students?[/quote]

I’ve never in my life met a teacher that thinks they deserve to keep a job BECAUSE the get high. I’ve not even met an alcoholic that thinks they DESERVE to keep their job BECAUSE they get high at work. That is a ludicrous question. If there were such a person, I would like to have them fired as quickly as possible. Unfortunately, they could claim that they have a problem with substance abuse and in many States automatically become a “protected class”, and like pregnant women, unable to be fired for that reason. Nick is correct. The screening done to teachers is amazing. That’s not to say there are not teachers out there with problems, I’m sure there are. And if I ever saw with my own eyes, a teacher getting high before class, I would first talk to that teacher, then still report them if appropriate. But without first hand knowledge, I would not assume anything, and put someones career at stake.

[quote SirTannen]Hmm, I think you’re right, most trolls do tend to not have any description at all anyways.[/quote]

Did you just call me a troll?

How do you know the teacher is high? And if the teacher is high how do you know how he or she got that way?? I don’t believe in reporting suspicions and potentially ruining someone’s career. Also, why are YOU playing around on help.com instead of attending to your studies??

Anon… I find your ’sammich’ comment offensive and have asked the moderators to remove it from my post. Women are to respected and honored, and your comments are not welcome. DA-ll… thank you for your views. Perhaps my views are a little old fashioned, and could be considered stereotypical and even sexist, but I’m suggesting we go back to the 40’s or 50’s. I’m only suggesting that we all learn to honor the differences between men and women (which are very different even at the biological chemical makeup) and treat each other accordingly. Sexists? YES thank God… lets experience, honor and cherish the differences between men and women again! Thank you Je ne sais pa… you stated what I was saying beautifully from the female perspective. I thoroughly enjoyed reading what you had to say.

lol… good to know

How do you even know it’s a guy on the internet? Have you met him, is he even real? Basically, he’s not - he’s little more than a robot. Your emotions are attached to electrical wires and keyboards… maybe even a webcam if you’re getting kinky… If you can’t touch him he’ll never touch you.

We are even today merging the two sexes emotionally. Eventually someone will find a reason to do so chemically (if they haven’t already) … True androgynous beings are in our future. Somehow science fiction always finds a way to become science fact.

Thanks Korwinn, you’re right, there certainly a generational thing going on here. Of course all things evolve over time, that’s OK, but I believe that some things don’t need to change. If our gender roles continue to evolve, it will be interesting to see what the future holds; Men giving birth?! I could happen.

Thanks Anon… you are awesome :)

Well, if you want to take them back I wouldn’t think it’s a true fetish. If you are feeling guilty, it sounds like what Time Traveler said… “buyers remorse”.

Ok… as you know, you need to get over this fear. He’s done nothing to make you suspect he’d dump you… He’s chosen you, that has to mean something to you. He WANTS you, not someone else. The fact is, because you are living with this fear, you are doing things right now that you feel HE wants. It’s OK to please a partner, but not at the expense of our Self. We must always be the person we are. If you alter yourself to be the best image of what you think he wants that image will eventually fade, then he’ll be left to say one day; “I don’t even know who you are anymore!” Be yourself. You are a pretty, confident woman - you know this - he chose you because of this. I’d like you to read my most current post … http://help.com/post/322381-the-battl…

No matter how “Eastern” your parents may be… many parents in Western society feel the same way. You are in college for a college education, not to meet boys… that was how it was in the 1940’s and 50’s… but no longer. Since they were raised with that past generations attitude and they of course remember it. But they want better for you. Back then many women quit college after they found their guy… even if they didn’t get knocked up. They want more for you; so try not to hold this against them… they are having to fend off old attitudes too. So tell me, why are you in college?

As Gandhi said, “Be the change you see in the world”.

well… usually it all changes if you DON’T just be yourself. Do you always exhibit low self esteem or confidence, or is it only with your boyfriend?