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Thank you … I appreciate your comments. As I said before you sounded, in your original post in a pretty good state of mind (so far). One of the biggest things I learned after loosing a great job in 2002, was THAT was my OPPORTUNITY… not my misfortune. I lost my job for a good reason (and I’m not talking about the corporate reason). Part of my job search was to go to the employment agency, which happened to offer many classes. On class was the sort of career testing that would inform what would suit me best based on personality, experience, and preferences. Of course I was not surprised by the results. But I needed more education to do that. No money, and loosing more and more with each passing day, I knew I could not afford more upper level education. I now know I should have acted right then and there, and gone back to school. I’m there now… loving life… working yes, (not in the field of choice, but making enough to live). So… my advise is to act on whatever it is you LOVE. Now is your chance. And the Universe waits for no one.
Remember… if you love what you’re doing, you never have to work another day in your life.
~Bright blessings

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First I want to say you have a great attitude and should be congratulated. Regarding your question two things. You can, depending on your talents, get work via a temp agency. This was how I ultimately landed my next job. 2nd… this is our opportunity! A chance for you do be doing what you LOVE. What do you WANT to do. If you need more schooling to do what you want to do… then go back to school. Don’t wait. You can get a loan or scholarship… but go back. I wish you luck and bright blessings ~R

Metal… that’s a pretty big one. Even if it’s not conscious on your part. your subconscious could be trying to wrap your brain around that one. ANY sense of loss can bring on a depression… that’s normal. Are you exercising now that classes are out? you could be missing some of those wonderful endorphines (that help fight off depression) that are pumped out during exercise. If you’re not exercising I highly recommend it… cause even if that is not the problem… it certainly can not hurt to deal with some of the depression now. Also, talk to people about suicide and try to come to terms with what your friend did.

lol… college IS school.. with a hell of a lot more pressure… how long ago did you get out of college? One thing that can happen we build up all kinds of defense mechanism to deal with lifes pressures. As I said the end of a semester can be really stressful. perhaps you built up some very good solid defenses for this… but now the at the pressure is gone… your defenses have nothing to do… you are missing a part of you (the stress). enter in the sense of loss. Does that make any sense to you? Otherwise… what about at home? Mom dad.. siblings… all the same? what changed in your life? someone pass on? dog died?

do you know how to play an instrument?

just to clarify for the weaker at heart… I’m sorry I used term “whacked out”. Believe me Metal… I do not mean to minimize your pain. Well… actually I do if your pain is from school… and I say that because it is normal. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being depressed this time of year from the pressures at school. Thousands of kids across the country are feeling the exact same way. If however school is not the issue, then your issues may be more serious, and indeed probably should see both an MD doc… and a psych doc.

what in your life has changed lately?? more pressure? less pressure? Unexpected change has to be coped with, and there are time when that copeing mechanism is not up to snuff, and that could clearly bring on depression. It also could be as simple as the pressures of finals coming up, and the end of the semester. There’s quite a few out there right now that are whacked out because of this.
~R

Ahhhh I thought Seven was using his Italian accent.. that’s all.

The New Moon always signals “new” things. The eclipse is like a Cosmic light switch being thrown on in an area of our lives that needs to be seen and highlighted. Also, solar eclipses are about outer events in our external world. It could involve people around you who make you react or act. http://en.mimi.hu/astrology/new_moon….

That’s it in general. Of course depending on where the moon is now, in what constellation… it has deeper meanings. I’m not an astrologist though so could not expand on that one.

I’m not clear why we have to have a good and bad an all Xeno. As far as I’m concerned God created all of it. In Deepak Chopra’s book God, Deepak states, that the more spiritually evolved we get, the more we will realize this. Perhaps one day I will be evolved enough to say… ohhhh thank God I lost my leg in that accident…now I will know EXACTLY what it is like to have two legs! Of course that is an exaggeration, but it gets the point across. Blaming God or other people (in my opinion) is just our ego’s way of giving away our own personal responsibility, or sometimes it’s a survival mechanism. Remember my example of the Farmer… or of the man caught in the flood. Heck Xeno… I have to sleep on this one… these are just surface thoughts…. GREAT QUESTION though!
~R

ahhhh haaaa figured it out Seven…

http://www.calculatorcat.com/moon_pha…

it’s time for the dark full moon.
(insert theme from Twiligh Zone here)

ahhhh heck… Ken… ya beat me to the cookies again!!! Hey Seven… I’m not saying to ignore them, unfortunately they wont let you. But accept what they have to say, then let it go immediately. it’s almost like ignoring them. We all get angry and that’s ok. It’s what we DO with that anger that is important. Oh, and hey mr good looking… .you forgot good humored. That part I know is true.. I’ve always enjoyed reading your posts.
~R

I’m sorry, but I don’t understand what you are trying to say. Are you saying you are ready to start killing people?

I’m sorry you feel that way. Not knowing your name (even a screen name)I couldn’t tell if I missed your postings. But don’t give up, I’m sure someone will listen. and from what Chey says, that someone MIGHT even give you the answer you are looking for, so you can justify what’s happening, and you can quit.
~R

Thank you for your perspective Holly. I’m applied with you too. First when did I say it was easy? Little in life worth having necessarily is easy, some things are easy, some are very difficult. To make a change in your life is easy, but carrying it out can be extremely difficult. I can choose to quit smoking (as I did) that decision was very easy… to succeed (which I have) was extremely difficult. All the time I was staying away from cigerettes, I NEVER blamed my sister for giving me that first ciggie… I NEVER blamed the Tobbacco industry for making the ciggies… it was MY responsibility. and YES … in come cases it is Black and White… you can see a rainbow of colors in ANY situation, but many times that is called justification. You can justify your life all you want… will it make you happy? Don’t count on it. I don’t know where you got any love for his parents out of his post, “clearly” or not… When I read; “… how DISGUSTING it is to do these things to one’s children …” I don’t read love in the line or even between the line. Have you ever heard of tough love. How dare you speak to me of compassion when you don’t even know me. Anyone that thinks they know me from reading a couple of post on a blog is nieve. Am I sorry that Idk, had a rough childhood, yes. Am I sorry as an adult he still blames everyone else for his problems… even his childhood? HELL NO. As adults we need to ‘get over it’, and move on. Rise above your pain, YES IT IS POSSIBLE… take the responsibility for your actions in the HERE AND NOW. When you blame others…when you make them responsible - YOU GIVE THEM THE CONTROL ON A SILVER PLATTER! And you want your life to be happy after surrendering the control? Aint gonna happen.
~R

That means stop blaming others for your life; “My parents control me …” What are you a robot? Your parents do not control you (as an adult that is impossible), you allow them to control you. Cause and Effect, it is a universal principle. You do something, then something will happen to you based on the cause. You stand in the middle of the street in the barrio, and yell out at the top of your voice; “all wet-back wife swapers back to your own beds”… and you can expect the shite to be beat out of you at the very least! If you did that, you’d have to own getting the shite kicked out of you. Your parents bought you a car. Booo whoooo. You know how many kids would be grateful of that?! Not you, it is enabling. Your life is NOT the sum total of what your parents did to you. Take ownership of your life… take responsibility.

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