Richard Cor de Lyon's reply history at Help.com

LMAO Jeb…. lol… eat me too! spank me and make me write bad checks!

I never said your story “bums me out”. I said that you don’t take any personal responsibility. I imagine that if you are a minor yes, you could be locked up by your parents, but in a mental ward that would be more difficult because they are NOT interested in taking any new patients if they don’t need to. If the courts were involed that’s another entirely different model, but you never mention any details to you. You leave out great big parts of your story making people try to fill in the gaps.

I never mentioned my own parents and my relationship with them… as a matter of fact I said your parents definitely have their issues. Anon/Idk, your perspective needs adjustment, perferably by a professional as others have recommended. I did not mean for you to see my post as a flame, or rant… it was not written with that intent, and I certainly did not sink to name calling (i.e. “moron”). You can think of me anyway you’d like. The difference between you and I is that I can say, I don’t care what you think. I guess I didn’t finish my though in my original post. The difference between a happy and sad person, is that a happy person choosed to be happy, while the sad person… makes no choices at all!!!

Get a life, own your life, and stop crying about freedom, when you do nothing to be free! (that was a rant btw).

nope.. sorry… just here and sometimes yahoo IM (richhills1)

Excellent post Qzzzz. thank you. I agree with you nothing can be done without action, in otherwords, work. The universe will unfold at our feet no matter what we do. If we do nothing, then we shouldn’t complain about what the Universe gives us. It’s only in a dogs life that you get the treat by rolling over and playing dead.
Bright blessings ~R

Wow… you don’t have any responsibility do you? If you were locked up in a mental ward, that’s on you. No psychiatrist is going to lock you up because your parents told them to. You needed to be locked up at the time; own that. It does sound like your parents have their own issues… without a doubt, but if you were living in the car, why the hell didn’t you drive away?! How old are you? I understand how hard it is to make it in this world today, we all have problems… the differnce between a happy person and a sad person, is that a happy person chooses to be happy.

Just K… do this experiment. Do you know how to meditate? OK… sit quietly alone, you may listen to some music… burn insense; whatever… but quiet and relax. See in your mind an elevator. Go into the elevator, and push the down button. You can feel the elevator going down and down, and with ever floor it goes down you get more and more relaxed… go down 10 floors. when you get to the tenth floor, the doors open to a bedroom. It’s a very soft bedroom of a little girl. Stuff animals little the shelves, posters of Aaron Carter are hanging on the walls. Laying on the bed, is a little girl she’s about 10 or 11 years old. She’s been crying… she’s sad. She’s in love with a boy, but there is another guy that likes her too… As you get closer to the little girl to comfort her, you realize that she is your daughter! What do you do? What do you tell her? Your answers are inside of your K… knock and the door will be answered.
Bright blessings ~ R

good post beachgirl….

and just k… why would you want to break up the relationship of two buds. Of course that would be their choice, but you’d be a root cause! Find someone else to “love”, I’m sure they’re out there for you.

Depending on your religion it is a sin. As a Catholic I know, a divorce granted by the state will never sever the marriage in the eye of the Church.

But what is sin? The acutal meaning of the word, is “missed the mark”. and to missing the mark, I say; so what? We all miss the mark, so we try again. Holding hands a sin? Personally I say no, but I’m a Druid, and I can do ALOT more than holding hands without worrying about sins…lol.

Looks to me Anon, that you have something to learn about physical intimacy ’cause you keep attracting to yourself women that have hang ups in that area. Wanna try to work through that?
Bright blessings ~ R

Yes… of course a wrong diagnosis is possible without knowing all the facts. Lay them out all on the table. You’re paying to be helped right? (which I applaud you for… that’s soooooo GREAT). Lay everything out, believe me, YOU’LL feel alot lighter, and then let the theripist direct the conversation from there. I wish you luck and
Bright blessings ~R

What a wonderful… beautiful conversation. Thanks you for sharing it with us Oster… Megan, I soooooo admire your strength, and am so proud of you. Oster hit on a very good point, about seeing in the father architype a little baby that only wants his way… I had to see in my mother a little fat girl (which she was when she was as child) how suffered at the hands of others because of her weight. Because of that she became protective of her children… over protective, so much so, that it appeared unsupportive. Little I could do, IF I COULD DO IT in the first place, was really good enough. It is a matter of perspective Megan… perhaps my book could be a helpful starting point. http://www.lulu.com/content/862745
Bright blessings ~ R

Denial (this isn’t happening to me!)

Anger (why is this happening to me?)

Bargaining (I promise I’ll be a better person if…)

Depression (I don’t care anymore)

Acceptance (I’m ready for whatever comes)

the stages of grief do not come necessarily in this order, although Acceptance is usually last, and it is argued that we all may not go through all the stages. I believe that we go through all the stages, but some are so light it would appear that it didn’t happen at all. Sounds to me like you’ve been stuck in denial for a long time. That ok… it doesn’t mean you are a bad person or anything like that. Our parents are SOOOO tied into our persona, I’m sure the loss of a parent is devestating, or in some cases a joyful release. Congratulations on your realization!!! It means you are finally moving forward and that’s something to be proud of… something your parents would be proud of.
Bright blessings ~ R

Excellent post Whiskey… pretty much what I was thinking but didn’t want to say without a little more info. Thanks for steppin’ up.
~R

things that make you go hmmmmm. It sounded to me like he had a 360 degree mood change in a matter of seconds. Is that true? Do you have children? Has he abused you (I’d say yes mentally) but physically too? You don’t like him at the moment, or your lost all love for him? These are questions that need answers. It sounds like perhaps he needs some medical attention himself. Does he do drugs, or alcohol? Not know what you posted on myspace, but it would appear that his reaction was wayyyyyy over the top. Juat wishing I knew a bit more to make a valued comment
Bright blessings ~ R

why cant the world and love just be good and caring and loving and simple?

Guess what…IT IS! It’s you… it’s me… it’s the guy across the street… it’s people and egos that make it so complex. The Universe… doesn’t struggle at ANYTHING! Niether does love. Try living that for a while, and see how big your smile can get!

It’s not so bad really.. I recommend this book ~

http://www.lulu.com/content/862745

Bright blessings ~R