Richard Cor de Lyon's reply history at Help.com

Thanks for your reply Gynan… that is, as they say, “pretty much it in a nutshell”

We all have our own sense of limits or boundaries. When we cross those boundaries, we feel guilty because we let ourselves down - we crossed a line of personal integrity; I think that is a normal feeling. But when that happens we have to sit and seriously evaluate our personal boundaries and especially our motives. Are we doing something to better ourselves, or are we doing something in order to fit into some group. Group pressure is a big deal, and very difficult to overlook sometimes. But when we sit and reevaluate our motives the “why” of what we did, we may come to different conclusions. And it may be that even after looking at things you feel strongly about what the group says. In that case, the guilt is harder to push away. But that is when forgiveness comes into the picture. None of us is infallible. The reason we fall, is to see how we pick ourselves up again - not because the low point is where we belong. If sexuality is an integral part of your honor and integrity, then that’s OK… you’ve chosen a very difficult path for this day and age.

God did not put anyone here to be miserable… God, like any loving father or mother wants to see his children happy. Looking for love is a double edged sword…sometimes you find it, but mostly you don’t. We first have to love ourselves before we be truly loved by another. That might sound trite, but it’s very true.

lol.. don’t feel silly… pondering some simply things in life can often unlock the mysterious. Always feel wonderful about your desire to unlock the truth.

no… you are not unreasonable. Can you tell me what you do have? What are you grateful for?

I think they do. All liquids (including melted chocolate) forms a drop because of surface tension. Because the dough surrounds the chocolate, the chocolate will do its best to form a ‘drop’, but it will be restricted by the more viscus dough.

well… it doesn’t really sound like clinical depression, but you’d have to see a psychiatrist or psychologist for that diagnosis. Adolescents is a very difficult time period. I know teenagers hear that all the time, and it’s solves very little. The best we can do is talk about issues as they occur, and try to work them out - or at least build good coping mechanisms. Our parents are not always the best at seeing things because they are too close to things… they also can give more or less credit to their teenage kids they the kids deserve. If every you want to talk, please give me a shout anytime.

Bright blessings ~ Richard

Even Freud and Jung… the original dream guys of psychology, teach us that no one can interpret our dreams for us. Someone else might be able to tell you what your dream would mean to them if they had dreamed it, but never can they tell you what your dream means to you. You see, its difficult if not impossible for another to see into your subconscious, from where your dreams bloom. If you step away from this and stop obsessing on it, it may just reveal itself to you.

hmmm hate to burst and culinary bubbles.. but I don’t believe they do keep their shape. Chocolate chips are shaped like little candy kisses out of the bag (mostly), but they no longer have that shape in the cookie. Now they do stay relatively round after baking, but I’m sure that has to do with the fact that the cookie dough itself is more viscus than the chocolate, and inhibits osmosis - make sense?

Happy birthday and bright blessings :) ~Richard

So… most of your core values have already been defined and right now you both are trying to figure out right from wrong, based on those core values (values you might not even fully recognize). The abuse of alcohol or drugs is not a symptom of youth, it’s a symptom of something much deeper. So, the guy you love is carrying alot of baggage, for him to say he wants to kill himself. If you want to help him carry that baggage that is up to you - get used to getting hit though.

Well… you’re not thinking very hard right now, because you are lost in grief, perhaps even prematurely. You might give KJ’s advice a go. I’m not familiar with this particular process, but it sounds pretty cool! And she’s clearly right about a woman’s perspective. And even if you loose this one too, this is the perfect opportunity for you to discover yourself.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

those are the help groups for the families of Alcoholics… Like AA, for the family members.

You are fooling yourself by saying, “it’s just the alcohol”… it not. My advise is to stay away from this guy. Someone that drinks so very much is trying to “drown” something (clearly from what he was saying), and alcohol does not make someone violent. Alcohol merely makes it easier for a violent person to be violent.