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you don’t have to surrender to a man to feel value. In fact you will be surprised how much empowerment and esteem you will feel, if you DONT surrender to your urges and to the will of a man.

clearly, a lack of esteem stems from the molestation of your youth. You probably feel you need to surrender yourself to a man in order to feel value. If you don’t go all the way, somehow he will think less of you. Well, sadly, for some guys that is true, but those are the guys you want nothing to do with anyway. It’s time for you to make a choice. It’s time to become a virgin again.

If you can talk to a counselor … I highly recommend it.

OK… if you had a sexual encounter when you were 8 you were molested. And your Uncle probably did abuse you as well. Which from what your discussing (promiscuity) none of your history is surprising. All of what you are experience is backlash from your childhood story; sadly.

were you molested as a child? or raped? Personal question I know and I mean not offense but that is really important to know.

sounds to me like SHE needs to open up more.

bottom line… no one here can really tell you what is wrong with your earlobe… we can’t see it, feel it, smell it (few if any of us are doctors)… if it is really bothering you, you need to see a doctor.

A pierced ear can become infected at any time.

Hey Excess… I’m doing well. Still in school, I get my BA in Psych probably next year or early 2011. Still making a go at being a counselor / life coach, but looking for additional work as well. It’s not been easy, but I keep plugging along. After my girlfriend dumped me last year I’ve been single, but that’s OK too. I’m writing a teen parenting blog for San Francisco Examiner.com (http://www.examiner.com/x-12479-SF-Parenting-Teens-Examiner) It’s fun. I am working part time as a counselor and substitute aid for Special Education in our local school district. and as always trying to give some time to the youth at church. So, that’s what I’m up to… how about you?

Your pierced ear probably has a minor infection and the fluid is an attempt for your body to fight it off. Perhaps you changed ear rings recently to something your body did not like?

lol… just on a whim I did a google image search… there’s a ton of results for Anna’s wedding :) Don’t know if that’s your name or not… and of course there are alot of Anna’s out there… good luck to you; I fully understand what the pictures mean to you

You are very welcome… wishing you the very happiest of birthdays and hope you have a “ball” at your party :)

If you paid him, small claims court is the only way. But do try to gather as much evidence before you go. On the internet, I would google your friends name. If you know any nicknames or user names he might use on games try that too… or business names if he has a business. Also, you might google your name and wedding (not just wedding cause you’ll get a boatload of hits. but with this search, start with a google image search, not a websearch.

I feel your pain, although there’s not much anyone here can do in the way of getting you work. In this market it’s hard to find (I’ve been looking for almost 2 years). Try to stay positive… I know it’s difficult in your situation, but remember how we respond to things is always within our control. We can let it beat us down, or we can stand tall and move forward. Try to start feeling grateful for things. Little things at first (even within your relationship). Grateful to have a roof over your head, and food to eat. Grateful for a warm bed… the more you find you can be grateful for, the better you might see your life. Once in that mode of consciousness things will turn around for you.

Do you not know how to use Google??

try starting here…

http://www.aota.org/