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Thanks lilies

Thanks you guys. Even those of you who don’t know me lol. I am back and I sure could use a whole lotta advice these days. But since this is my first day back I am just going to sit back and wait a bit. I am not graduating til August, possibly December if I dont get my act straight. Maria turns two this Thursday, I really cannot believe it!

Well toodaloo ya’ll!

Here is a fast update. My sister has temporarily, probably permentaly lost custody of her son. He is most likely going to live with my Mom and Step-Dad. I am really worried about my sister, she is back into drugs again, and I am pretty sure she is doing the prostitution thing again, and yes she is still pregnant. Urrr…

no…dont do it…do you even know yourself well enough to commit yourself to someone forever. At your age you are just starting to form your own identity, you need to get out there and understand what you really enjoy doing, what you believe in, what you want to do in life. Besides be married. I use to always dream of the family and marriage, and I didnt dream about anything else, but I neeed to. I went through a stage after being married and having my daughter that I was like ok now what do I do. I also realized when I got to college that I had no idea who I was anymore, and I wanted to change that. It doesnt matter how long you’ve known each other, there is so much out there in the world that you need to experience. Because the worst thing that could happen is you two get married, and then you realize later that you missed out on so much. No matter if you have an awful childhood experience(S) or if your family is awful and you want to make it work, its not easy no matter how much you think you love that person. Just give yourself time and experience to understand yourself. We all change, your not old enough to have experienced all that. And just because he says he will experience it with you doesnt mean 2, 5, 10 years later he will. Trust me, time changes people. Not saying that is a bad thing, but your soo young. Become you first, when your married you give your life to that person.

I honestly do think it matters, you just dont get it when your younger, you might have the love and you mighit think he’s perfect but trust me time changes things. You give up a lot when you get married, dont fool yourself. Be realistic about it, listen to others who have been there or are there, its not made up stuff.

If your asking that your too young. Its not about age, its about understanding marriage and love, no just wanting a wedding, and understanding that its hard work and just because its perfect now realizing that there will be times you cant stand each other, its a lot of things. Some 19 year olds get it better then 30 year olds do. I think you should wait until you are also able to understand yourself, and also make sure you are accomplished in the areas you want to be, because once your married there are things you cant do, thats reality.

That was really great advice Bex, very inspiring! ( although it wasnt me who left the comment, and I am getting ready to graduate from college- but it made a lot of sense, hopefully it helps!)

Nothing is impossible

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Gas money, hotel, food probably a few hundred dollars. Thats a lot, at least for us. and I cannot borrow that money from anyone. I dont know, its all so hard. Urrr lol. Thanks john. I actually need to get off here. My daughter goes to bed at 8, I have been on here for 30 minutes now. I need to play with her since she is done eating now. Thanks so much!

I live in Northern Ohio, and she lives in the middle of Kentucky. So she probably is a good 6-8 hours away. You gotta remember though, I have a 20 month old. I would have to take her with me unless I can find a sitter and then he would know something is up .

Your right…Thanks:) I will keep trying with him. Maybe I’ll have to tell him I am going somewhere else. I dont want to lie about it. I know it will put us back on money, but our family has food in our bellies, we have an apartment, clothes, friends and family who call us all the time, we know we are loved. But I agree, Amy needs that, she doesnt have it. She is looking for it any way she can.

haha thanks. But unfortunatly if he says I cant, then we will just fight and fight, and he wont let me have money to go up there. This weekend would be perfect for it because my Friday clases got cancelled. But he is being very stern about this. He just does not understand. He has one sister, and Mom and Dad who have been together this whole time, a house in the country, and even a dog. He comes from a really cute little family. My family isnt like that at all, we’ve been through A LOT together. I cant get him to understand.

I really try, she knows that I am love her. She always calls me her guardian angel, not sure why, I just love her thats all. I dont know what to do, I live far from her now, and my husband does not want me to go visit her or anything. He thinks its too dangerous.

Thank you john!