Christina Sponias's reply history at Help.com

Thank you for your kind reply!

I just wanted to tell everyone that I didn’t abandon the site because I’m not coming to help.com as often as before, but that I’m very busy writing.
However I’m writing to help those that need help with my work and soon I’m going to show you my solutions.

Sorry, only now I saw your replies, because I wanted to remember a name and I came back to this post. I don’t remember having received your answers when it was recent.

However, I wrote 2 articles about body abuse and in a while I’m going to present them here. They only need to be revised and approved.

Thank you! I hope I can help the depressed teens. I talked with two that couldn’t stop cutting their body… I can’t forget their problem. It’s very sick!

Thank you!

Lies are terrible! Before opening your mouth to say anything, think.
Don’t say what you don’t really mean and don’t invent stories, because in the end you feel ridiculous and you lose your peace of mind.

You have to be sincere especially with your boyfriend; otherwise your relationship is going to be sad and will find an end very soon.

She is not a real friend if she behaves this way. Of course she understands what she is doing, but you are too tolerant and she is taking advantage of your inertia.
She is not caring for your sadness because she copies you all the time. Your friend is a parasite, what is worse than being an enemy.

I think you have to look for friends that will care for you and will help you in your life instead of provoking you problems.

This wouldn’t be a solution…
If you feel this way, you cannot wait for her, so you better decide to abandon her; but be careful, be comprehensive, helpful, like a friend.
She may overcome her problem some day and you may find someone that will be the perfect person for you.

You shall help her if you really love her.
If you feel you cannot bear this situation and there is no love anymore or that your love is not enough, you have to take care of your own life because this situation is very sad.
However, don’t abandon her suddenly. Help her as much as you can.

If you have really the intention to work, you’ll find a job. Don’t loose hope!

I don’t think this heating pad can affect the muscles. It probably depends on how long you are going to use it, but I’m not a specialist.
Why don’t you look for information in any medical site?

Start participating of groups, go to classes about something that interests you, be a voluntary where people need help, etc.

You’ll find many things to do. Don’t focus on finding someone special for you, but just try to be part of a group or many groups, looking for friends.

The special person will appear in your life when you won’t be concentrated in this matter.

Don’t feel depressed for this reason, because you are young and you have health, you have many good things in your life and many skills. Don’t pay attention to what people say…

Relax and believe in your personality’s value.
If you are sincere and you help the others you’ll make many friends and find the right person for you.
This is a big world!

You can find support reading my articles.

Go to www.booksirecommend.com and you’ll have a big variety of articles about depression, dream interpretation, craziness, suicide prevention, my advices and happiness to read.
They might help you.

Take care!

Thank you for your reply!

If you already read my article, I’d like to explain you that the reasons for the human suffering are beyond our comprehension but what really matters is not if we’ll be happy during our life but if our psyche will be transformed, so that we may find authentic happiness some day.
The meaning of our life is something we ignore completely.
We think that we live in order to be happy, we want very much to be happy, but we live mainly always suffering here, because we are not perfect and our world is completely crazy.

At least you are learning something from your suffering, at least you are human.
Think about people that live suffering constantly because they have a serious physical problem.
Once I wrote a poem for a blind young lady that was full of energy, admiring her courage, in order to help a psychotic friend that could not overcome her psychosis for more than 20 years. I gave the poem to both and to many other people…

There are many examples of people that suffer too much in our world.
There is a reason for human suffering though and there is also a solution: goodness. This is the perfect medicine for everyone. It makes us happy even when we are suffering very much because we understand the meaning of our pain.