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I believe I lived the best years of my life when I was a teen and I had a gang. We were always laughing and happy simply because we were together.

I’m glad because you don’t need this help and because you recognized its value!

Take care!

Hello Hope!

Thank you for your reply!
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All the best!

Perhaps there is no problem at all but your girlfriend just wants to avoid sex. Many girls behave this way because they are somehow afraid of it, afraid of pregnancy (even when they do whatever they can to prevent it) or because they don’t know how to enjoy their sexual life.

Be patient and don’t feel frustrated because there are many couples that don’t have an intense or satisfactory sexual life.
Perhaps things will be better in the future, when your girlfriend will be mature (and you too).

Thank you for your kind reply renate!

Have a nice weekend!

Hi Bethanie!

Don’t do anything strange only to make him pay attention to you. Be natural, friendly and pleasant.
Smile, look, show your interest without exaggerating. Don’t be aggressive, be gentle.

Try to be his friend. I don’t know how you could do that but this is the best solution: being friends you’ll have many opportunities to be together and many things can happen…

greenfro12 why are you so aggressive?

I’m glad you are fine!

I’ve helped a few teens at help.com that felt rejected, so I decided to write an article about this matter. Now that it is ready and was published I’m presenting it here, for them.

Try to explain the situation to someone your parents trust, like an aunt, uncle or a good friend, so that somebody else may enlighten them of what is happening because they think you are just fighting like kids, without understanding that your sister has a nervous problem.

Your sister needs treatment!

Your story reminds me of the story of a girl that worked in my store a few years ago. She had a sister that ruined her family. The girl that worked for me was an angel: she worked, studied and was a perfect daughter for her parents. However, she had that sister that was always provoking problems, lying, going away of home with her friends and coming back after a while… She abandoned school and didn’t accept to have a treatment with a psychologist. In the end, her parents and her good sister were the ones that were visiting a psychologist because they couldn’t bear this situation. The girl was really unbearable and she didn’t change.

The girl that worked in my store decided then to go to Paris, study and live there, since she spoke French very well and the atmosphere at her house was always heavy, with her mother too nervous and her sister irritating everyone with her behaviour. Her father and her grandparents were suffering a lot with this case too, without knowing what to do.

I hope your sister doesn’t have such serious problem, but even if she has, she can be cured now that she is still too young. Later it will be impossible.

Alarm your parents saying that you learned that your sister’s psychic problem is serious and she needs treatment now, otherwise her life and your family’s life will be ruined. Or better saying, tell to an aunt, uncle, friend, etc to explain them how horrible everyone’s life can be if your sister will continue to have this personality without an urgent treatment.

I hope your parents will face this problem with seriousness and will care also for you that are suffering more than anyone with your sister’s behaviour.

Someone can be popular for many reasons, but mainly because his/her personality is interesting, remarkable.

Some people have the power to attract other people because they are too sociable, so they easily become popular.

The email messages in your email box don’t disappear. You can even read very old messages if you look for them in the Outlook Express.

Don’t go. Stay here and fight.
You have to learn, to teach, to make, build, understand and forgive.
Please, live!

Stay here in hell and transform it in heaven with your example!
Save the weak and feed the poor. We need your heroic attitude!

We need your story, your work, your protest and your solution!
Give us your answer!
Show us the meaning of life and prepare our evolution.

I have many cousins that live in different countries. I met some of them for the first time when I was already 15 years old…

Cousins love each other; it doesn’t really matter what you are going to say.

If you want to get married to your boyfriend, you have to feel that his mother is your mother too…
Now she needs his support because she doesn’t have a husband.

Be nice to her and don’t be jealous because she is not going to be this way forever.

If you show revolt, in the end your boyfriend will abandon you for this reason, because he will think that you didn’t care for his mother’s suffering. He cannot change mother. However, he can change girlfriend…

She’s afraid you are only pretending for a while that you are going to be near her instead of working hard, only to convince her to stay with you, but that with time the same problem will happen again.

Let her stay alone praying and thinking for a while. Come back early everyday and call her, talk with her by phone. Show her that you will be this way always and with time she will be convinced.

You have to show her in your daily life that you are serious; your words don’t mean anything. So, you have to pass through this experience.

Patience; if she really loves you and if you’ll really respect her and come early at home everyday, she is going to accept living with you.

It’s very bitter for a woman to be left aside because her husband/boyfriend is working… This is a reason for many divorces… or, for many adulterous relationships.

Now you are paying for not caring for the woman you love. Accept your suffering and show her how much you changed and really decided to be always loyal to your promise. This is a prove you can give only with time.