Christina Sponias's reply history at Help.com

Don’t give up! There are many institutions that may help you and your son; you have to look for them.
If you have faith, you will find a way to stand up and continue your journey in life.
Things will start being better as soon as you believe they can be better.

You are too young; you’ll find your way in life.

I’m late, I just wanted to give you a word and my support.
I had a sad day today and I delayed solving several problems…

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Tell your family you regretted and that your son needs support, not only you.
Your family shall forgive you and give you the support you need now.

Faith shall not disappear if what you ask doesn’t happen the way you wish. It means that your desire was not really good for you and you have to accept God’s will.

You are very naïve! You are not seeing how wrong your husband is and you are still thinking about staying with him even though he is not doing anything for his family and you fight all the time.

This means that you cannot see how wrong your husband is! You still believe in his words, even though he betrayed you since he was not a decent husband for you and a good father for your son. He didn’t work hard for you; he is taking advantage of your ingenuity.

God doesn’t help lazy fathers that don’t care for their families!
And you don’t have the obligation to take care of your husband as if he was a child! Take care of your son that is really a child and that has a father that doesn’t care for him.

You are the one that needs help for getting involved with such irresponsible man!
Take care of your own life and of your son’s life!
He will be helped by somebody else. You are not the one that shall care for him, he doesn’t deserve it.

Since your marriage was a failure and you are suffering and disgusted with everything, you better get a divorce and try to start your life again. It’s hard, but you are not in a better situation now.

Forgive your husband and take care of your own life and of your son’s life.
He has to be in contact with his father, don’t bother him in this point because the kid needs a father, no matter who he may be, but you better get divorced so that you won’t expect anything else from your husband because this is frustrating you even more.

Don’t loose hope! This is a very big world and you’ll find someone that will really love you and your son and will take care of you both.

I suggested you to stay away from her to clean things up.
You are going to help her this way too, while if you simply accept whatever she wants only because you love her, she is going to play with you forever…

This is painful for you; this is why you don’t want to tell her you prefer to stay alone for a while.
However, if she really loves you and cares for you, the distance will help her understand that she needs you and she has to stop telling you she wants to stay alone even though she loves you.

Well, this is what would help you solve the problem.
Otherwise, this situation can continue forever or until you both will feel disgusted with it.

The best thing you can do is to stay away from her. Tell her you need to be alone right now. If she really loves you she’s going to tell you that she’ll stop provoking problems, perhaps not immediately, but after some time.

Let her feel you don’t care about her, let her beg you to stay with her.
This is what she deserves and what will really clean things up.

If she won’t change her attitude after that, you can be sure that she is only playing with you: she doesn’t really care about you as I told you before.

I hope you’ll find another girl that will make you happy! This one doesn’t seem good for you, unless her attitude will be different and she’ll regret for making you suffer without reason.

Your story looks like the story of many teens lately. My son and his friends keep saying that the girls don’t know what they want…

If she doesn’t want to have a real relationship with you, stay away from her, because she is only provoking you.

You’ll find a girl that will really love you and respect you.
You have to be demanding when you get involved with someone, because if this is not the right person for you, you’ll only suffer. Perhaps you are even lucky because she left you now; if she didn’t care for your feelings and she is even playing with you, this is because she doesn’t love you.

I understand how you feel. I used to feel the same way, because my parents were always fighting and talking about problems. I understood that grown ups have many problems… However, this is our destiny. We have to face all the problems, learn, fall and stand up again… This is life.

There are many good points on growing up. You can be independent, take your own decisions, work… It’s good to be mature, to understand many things, to have some experience in life. You will feel fine as a woman too! You are going to be wise, while now you are ignorant.

You are going to find people that look like you and have the same preferences if you look for them. Don’t stick with your group of friends; try to meet other people that have the same interests you have. Sometimes we simply stay near those that are in our class or our neighbourhood, even though their character is not like ours…

You can make new friends studying something, going to several places, participating of meetings, groups, etc.

Everyone is different and everyone has some preferences. You have to look for people that have similar preferences and go everywhere with them.

Thank you!

Courage! Love is this way… Perhaps she felt she knew you too well and she could not have for you the feeling a woman has for a man. She was probably seeing you as a friend while at the same time she felt attracted, but it was only for a while… she understood that she doesn’t really love you.

I guess that something like that could have happened.
Or, who knows? Perhaps something else made her decide to abandon you while she seemed to be so fine…
We never know…

Try to meet new people, make new friends.
You are still young; you are going to find the perfect companion for you and you’ll soon forget her.

I hope you feel helped! Each one of us showed you something.
Have faith!