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• My mum has ruined my life, my boyfriend who i was madly in love with - she ran off with him.
  

  Hello it is Laura, look christina i have to say that i am agreeing with everyone but yourself. they both knew what they were doing to betray me and my mother has crossed a line which should never be crossed with her own daughter. i can learn to put it behind me but never can i accept her back in my life. Pain is an understatment and i want to move on with my life not invite her back into it only to mess it up once again in the future. My ‘’Mother'’ was completley aware of her actions before she carried them out. I have recently been told about her apparantly leaving her dressing gown open when he was around my house to encourage him.(This was 6 months ago!!!) and they have only runaway together 2 weeks ago and i have not recieved no contact from them - not that i would want to! All i can say is that is absolutely disgusting actions of a mother. She is not no mother she has to earn that and all she has done is thrown it away. After what has happened has sunk in i am not prepared to let her back in my life only to mess it up again. The last thing i want is to find another man i am happy with for her to try and make another move. In the last year that i spent with my boyfriend she has been encouraging him, this is why forgiveness is not an option, she was completely aware of her actions and to sleep with the same man as her daughter when she was happily married with my dad out in spain, we go on holiday and she is coming back with us on the plane with it all planned. It is a long story but i no her intentions were cruel and she has hurt many people by doing what she has done. it is completley irreversable. The worst thing is she is your average short dumpy blonde woman and he is the stereotypical half jamaican guy that gives them all a bad name. They will look absolutely ridiculous together and i dont want to be in my home city for people to see them and say to me what they hell is going on with your mother??? it is an embarrassment.
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• My mum has ruined my life, my boyfriend who i was madly in love with - she ran off with him.
  

  thank you for the support, i now know that i am not alone and iam beginning to realise that this could have happened in a much worse situation, i cant imagine how i would feel if i had kids. i dnt think i could carry on. i already know that my mother was and is not the same person when i saw her for the last time. but she has not contacted me and i no many people are telling me to forgive her but even if i wanted to i really can’t ever forgive for this. she is in a very strange state of mind and if she thinks i will accept her being with the man i love she is strongly mistaken. i mean she is moving in with him now. i found that out from my dad. it is forcing me to go and live in Spain, (this is where my parents lived) as i will have to live with my dad and cannot afford to live in the U.K, it is far too expensive. Images of them in bed together is driving me crazy i cant sleep or eat or function properly and if i did not want to feel like this then believe me i wouldnt. the last words in which she said to me echo around my head ‘’you want what you cant have'’ she told him she will give up everything for him and she has and doesnt give a ****. i hate her for what she has taken from me and my family. ive been told by a friend who didnt know what had happened that she had seen them shopping in the mall together????? he wouldnt evn get out of the car to come in the mall with me wen i was with him????what the **** is going on???
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• My mum has ruined my life, my boyfriend who i was madly in love with - she ran off with him.
  

  so many people have said jerry springer to me and its true i feel as though ive been pushed into a soap opera. i just want to say thank you for the support
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• My mum has ruined my life, my boyfriend who i was madly in love with - she ran off with him.
  

  it would help if i could speak to someone else that this has happened to but i don’t think anyone else is disgusting enough to do this. thank you for the support and i just hope this pain will go.
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

• My mum has ruined my life, my boyfriend who i was madly in love with - she ran off with him.
  

  thank you but now i can’t stop crying. i feel i have noone, i was so close to both of them and theyv done this to me, i feel i can’t go on. i can’t belive my mum can sleep with the same man i have, it is like incest. i feel every emotion possible. i cant sleep im taking sleeping pills and every time i shut my eyes i see them together. i just hope this wont be with me forever.
  - written 2 years, 6 months ago

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