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[quote Kuvri (yodaluv12)]My best best best friend is a guy.[/quote]

and my best best best friend is a girl. No kind of relationship (besides being best best best friends) or tension of any kind. See, now there are at least 2

We rock Kuvri =D

what if i said super freakin awesome friends of tottaly freakin sweet justice of coolstuff…

nothing wrong with hugging, we just dont like eachoter like that. But she is like my best friend so… it can happen. Just couse your friends with a girl doesnt mean you have to be all touchy gross with them. And im very straight i’ll tell you what right now.

one of my best best friends is a female. We have no kind of tension couse… we just dont. We have known eachother since junior high and hugged once and it was very very odd… so we vowed never to do that again. But we are super awesome freinds.

[quote Richard cor de lyon]You’ve got a good head on your shoulders. It sounds to me like you are moving in the right direction. Rebounding is dangerous, but it doesn’t quite sound like that’s where you are coming from. Here are a few posts that I’ve written about the subject if you are interested.http://help.com/post/211805-get-over-ithttp://help.com/post/228259-love-and-relationshipshttp://help.com/post/201052-love-never-goes-away-completelyhttp://help.com/post/118680-the-five-as-everybody-wanBottom line is… the world around us moves pretty fast, and when opportunity knocks… not to answer the door at that time might mean loosing the opportunity.Bright blessings ~ Richard[/quote]

thanks for those links, i read a couple of them, and i have no hard feelings for my ex, i feel bad couse the choices she is making is going to ruin her life. And i dont want to see her fall as hard as we know she might. I learned a ton from her and no regrets.
Moving on though… is… hard i think right now. The girl i like is currently trying to woo a different guy. =( we used to dance on an old ballroom team and… i think she just likes me as a friend. At least, she has never seemed interested in me more than just being friends. Should i just back off and let my head clear for a while or… should i get out there and start looking?

[quote j_a_burc]good luck and i hope things work out well for both of us…maybe we can post again saying how happy each other is haha[/quote]

lol, i look forward to it

[quote j_a_burc]that’s where that time with no relationships comes in…everyone wants to feel loved and know there is someone out there for them…but to truly get to that point sometimes it takes a little while to get there…i have a huge dis-trust for most girls on the planet and i chose to just have fun for about 6 months before i met my currently transistioning ex-girlfriend and i thought she was for me but god has decided not and has other plans[/quote]

thats what i’ve always told myself. If it doesnt work out, it doesnt work out. So i guess thats why i havnt been so… distraught over all this. But yah…thanks for the help! It really did help a bunch. =D

[quote j_a_burc]depends….can you see yourself talking to her or seeing her in person without having old feelings for her???[/quote]

Well, we met once after we had gone our seperate ways, and we just talked about stuff. I wouldnt have minded snugglin up to her couse we are so confortable with eachother, but… i dont want to be with her anymore couse of the stuff she is doing now… so. maybe a little old feelings but, im a pansy and wont act on anything.

[quote j_a_burc]ya it will be…..you’ll feel like if you give the new girl a chance you’re sort of cheating on your ex-girlfriend and won’t be able to be there for her but at same time you want to give this new girl a chance to take your mind of the old girl…sometimes the easiest thing to do is not date until your mind is 100% sure of what you want……i hope this helps[/quote]

wow… yes that… i think thats it? Im still attached to the ex, but dont want her… i mean, together for 5 years is a long time.. i dont want to date couse of that i think… but, i want to date couse i miss the relationship with girls… they’re so nice. So… how do i reach that 100% ?

[quote j_a_burc]avoid at much contact as possible with your ex-girlfriend…don’t give her the impression that you will be forever the safety net or she’ll never be outta your life….i have to leave the best relationship i’ve ever had right now and we are on excellent terms we just want different things and mine was only 2 years long….we don’t hate each other and feel like we are each losing our best friends…….but not much contact will help each other move on with our lives[/quote]

we do, i mean, we are still friends but, i got a new phone and dont have her number anymore and she hasnt sent me anything so…eh. We had a great relationship and still want to be friends, is that a good idea?

[quote Braad]I say give the new girl a chance and see what happens.[/quote]

i want to but, im pulled away. Like, litteraly speaking. It feels like im being pulled to another person, and being pulled away. Almost like i dont want to date at all.. but i do… its kinda hard to figure out..

i think, from my experiance, when they say they want space it kinda means for you to chill out. Email her, text and what not, but dont be overbearing. Maybe she is feeling that you are monitoring her to much, constantly over her shoulder ya know? Might be a trust issue on your part. Just remember, people need to breath, we need some elbow room, not just physicaly, but mentaly and emotionaly.
Dont ignore her, just back off a little bit. Trust her alot more.
Good luck =D

Got it! Thanks =D
makes sense now. Dont know why i didnt see it before. New eyes ya know! Thanks again!
IM DONE WITH MATH FOR THE DAY NOW!!! WOOT!

Leave. If he cant respect you he doesnt deserve you. As soon as a relationship goes abusive it usually will never get any better. You need to get out quick. Stay with family, good friends, relatives. But get yourself out of that abusive place fast. The longer you are there the lower you will consider yourself and you deserve better then what he is giving you.