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What do you know about him? Is there something you know he is good at? An easy way to get people talk is to make them show/teach you something they know a lot about. :)

-Beautiful symmetrical faces.
-Soft skin stroking my skin (or the other way around).
-Letting your defenses go down, showing weaknesses, strong people daring to be weak

This is a technical question, perhaps you could call/email customer support? Do you have any warranty?

Take up volunteer work, it’s gives yourself meaning and value.

You like him back? How cute! :)

If talking is hard, find an excuse to do something together where it’s either easier to talk or you don’t need to talk.

Are you in school? Perhaps you could ask if he’d like to do homework with you?

According to one of my textbooks most psychologists think that your sexual orientation is decided by the age of four. So if he makes it past the next year, he should be fine. ;)

I procrastinate to. I’ve been leaving everything to the last minute all my life. It wasn’t before after the first 9 years of school I changed from believing homework was something you were supposed to do as little as possible in the least amount of time.

And now as a University student, when there’s no teachers to follow you up, only professors, and I have all the responsibility, it really hasn’t been helping. But I’m learning the hard way, ever so slowly.

I believe one reason so many procrastinate is that they’ve succeeded so many times with it before, that they believe it’s not such a big deal to postpone. And then we become unrealistic and underestimate how much better the job would be done if we invested more time into what we do.

Maybe something like:

“I feel like I’ve hurt you or done something to really upset you, which again made you avoid you. But truth be told, I don’t know what I did or didn’t do that changed our relationship that much. I’d really like you to tell me, so I could know how to not do the same mistake to another person. I know this might be hard for you, but please, can you help me with this?”

Whatever you say, a rule of thumbs says that you should use the pronoun “I” more than “you” when discussing problems in a strained relationship you want to mend.

Discuss the way you felt things happened when addressing him, instead of questioning their actions directly in a too accusatory way. I trust you’ll think of a good answer, you seem to take relationships seriously.

I wish you the best of luck, tell us how it goes.

I’m not sure why a lot of people who marry first and move together second are more content than those who move in first, but I’m speculating on some possible explanations.

First off, those who want to “test” living together first might be slightly uncertain about their relationship in the first place. And marriage is a strong sign of commitment, which makes you try harder to be a good spouse.

And as any first year psychology textbook will tell you, in investing in something you start liking that something better. People who helps somebody with something usually justify it internally by starting to like that person.

Think of a really popular person, a hero of yours, either from your school, Hollywood or wherever. Now imagine that you are that person, and that talking is just a breeze. Additionally, get to somewhere where nobody knows you, and practice being outgoing reminding yourself not to care what people think of you, as they most likely won’t see you again.

Stop thinking about yourself, don’t be self-concious. How? Closely study the people around you for how they feel in the current situation (don’t be looking for what they feel about you!). Practice empathy, focus on other people. This might make you less self concious.

One thing that works for some people, is to find somebody who is as shy or more shy than you are. This works for some people, but not all.

I’d be interested to hear from you as you progress. :)

The male teacher clearly has the responsibility even when girls tempt him. Temptation is a good explanation, but a bad excuse.

Avoiding habits that you feel the need to hide is also one possibility. :P

Perhaps my point was, somewhat related to the original post. Are there people who have lot of the same problems as sociopaths, only that they’re able to control their selves? That they’re sort of good people even lacking something as pivotally human as compassion?

You know, I have a friend which I’ve only known for a short time that shows lots of signs associated with psychopathy. I won’t go into the details, but on a random test a friend of mine did on a lot of people, she extraordinarily gave an answer (at such a speed) that you’re not supposed to answer if you don’t look have a purely utilitarian view on people. In addition, the way she plays board games, which she takes seriously and cares deeply about winning, but does a lot subtle stuff to draw away attention from her winning. She’s is also been exceptionally clever at making people feel guilty in rather harmless situations.

The point is, she shows tons of signs of sociopathic tendencies, though nothing that really harms anyone else, and she is such an ANGEL in so many ways. She’s sort of a manipulative angel, unable to give a deeper explaining.

So is this an example of somebody that thinks in some of the same ways as psychopaths, only that she isn’t causing any apparent harm? That she simply is a non-impulsive version of a psychopath?

I’m merely speculating here, and maybe it’s wrong of me to even think this about her. It was just that a lot happened that made me wonder. :-S

Gee, now I just feel all awkward, maybe I’m so totally wrong.

Jonetta, your story really touched me. I know it doesn’t help you for me to say so, but that was inspiring. I have earnest respect for what you are doing. It’s an understatement to say what you are doing must be hard.