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• 2.5 months ago my girlfriend and one time fiancee broke off our relationship of 5+ years.
  

  Eacoyle, in reading your post I’ve found many parallels, uncanny ones. My ex-girlfriend left me after 5yrs, we lived together for the last four. She revealed that she did not love me anymore, I moved out and within 2 weeks she was seeing someone else.(she was 36, I was 33). I have never confirmed she was cheating during the last months, but I have my fears. During our relationship we expressed our mutual love quite often. We had similar professional goals, interests, and a great physical relationship, although she was able to “unplug” too, as you put it.
  
  By far, this was the longest term relationship I have ever had, so like you, I associate many things with her. I did not get the chance to ask her to marry me(I regret this terribly), but we had discussed our future dreams, home, family.
  We spent much time together, and were quite inseperable(probably co-dependent to a fault). She was my companion, friend and for lack of a better word, my soulmate.
  
  Of course, like you, I am devastated, regretful, and sad. This experience has crippled me, I have suffered much rethinking my mistakes, my flaws, how I could have prevented the events. Unfortunately, I have taken on the burden, that the outcome was something that I could have controlled and prevented. She has only contacted me 3 times since leaving me, once to wish me a happy birthday, and two for financial advice(I used to manage her investments)
  
  There is one important thing to note: She left me three years ago :( Much 2 long for anyone to suffer and punish themselves. I have been on many dates, been in a several short term relationships since. There is one common theme, I compare them all to her, and invariably all my relationships are doomed. I still think of her daily.
  
  I pray that you don’t fall into the same place I have gone. I wish you the best.
  - written 2 years, 10 months ago

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