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• RAM Dump? posted (1 year) ago
  ?? http://help.com/post/94418-lost-an-important-email I have just written this. The only way I c…

• Lost an important email. posted (1 year) ago
  I was writing an important email in thunderbird. I saved it as a draft so i didn’t loose it w…

• I’ve got strange abdominal pains. posted (1 year) ago
  I’ve looked it up on google and found that what describes the feeling I’m getting getti…

• Julie Bobbins would like a new name. posted (1 year, 1 month) ago
  After doing a google search on my screenn name - chosen with total innocence - I have decided I thi…

• My heads thumping. posted (1 year, 1 month) ago
  He’s with her again! I know it’s the last time but it makes me sick! My mind doing loo…

• I stand looking at through the window at the bottom of the stairs. posted (1 year, 2 months) ago
  Transfixed at the light at the end of the falling tunnel. I hear his words. I know he’s right…

• I am so Angry Today! posted (1 year, 2 months) ago
  I can’t stop snapping at my other-half! I feel like I want to hurt myself or throw myself o…

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• (1 vote) I want to kill myself, I hate me so much!
  

  Before You Kill Yourself….
  by: Renee T. Lucero (as reprinted in “Dear Ann Landers”, Dec 12, 1995)
  You’ve decided to do it. Life is impossible. Suicide is your way out.
  
  Fine — but before you kill yourself, there are some things you should know. I am a psychiatric nurse, and I see the results of suicide — when it works and more often, when it doesn’t. Consider, before you act, these facts:
  
  Suicide is usually not successful.
  You think you know a way to guarantee it? Ask the 25 year old who tried to electrocute himself. He lived. But both his arms are gone.
  
  What about jumping? Ask John. He used to be intelligent, with an engaging sense of humor. That was before he leaped from a building. Now, he’s brain-damaged and will always need care. He staggers and has seizures. He lives in a fog. But, worst of all, he KNOWS he used to be normal.
  
  What about pills? Ask the 12 year old with extensive liver damage from an overdose. Have you ever seen anyone die of liver damage? You turn yellow. It’s a hard way to go.
  
  What about a gun? Ask the 24 year old who shot himself in the head. Now he drags one leg, has a useless arm and has no vision or hearing on one side. He lived through his “foolproof” suicide. You might, too.
  
  Who will clean your blood off the carpet or scrape your brains from the ceiling? Commercial cleaning companies may refuse that job — but SOMEONE has to do it. Who will have to cut you down from where you hanged yourself or identify your bloated body after you’ve drowned? Your mother? Your wife? Your son?
  
  The carefully worded “loving” suicide note is no help. Those who loved you will NEVER completely recover. They’ll feel regret and an unending pain.
  
  Suicide is contagious
  Look around at your family. Look closely at the 4 year old playing with his cars on the rug. Kill yourself tonight, and he may do it 10 years from now.
  
  You do have other choices
  There are people who can help you through this crisis. Call a hot line. Call a friend. Call your minister or priest. Call a doctor or hospital. Call the police.
  
  They will tell you that there’s hope. Maybe you’ll find it in the mail tomorrow. Or in a phone call this weekend. But what you’re seeking could be just a minute, a day or a month away.
  
  You say you don’t want to be stopped? Still want to do it? Well, then, I may see you in the psychiatric ward later. And we’ll work with whatever you have left.
  
  Renee T. Lucero
  
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago – voted for by cookies and cream

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• Lost an important email.
  

  Well - I re-wrote the message. Took me hours again but I did it.
  
  Thanks for your help though.
  
  molotok - that would be a great idea but it wasn’t the same email - I had written over it so it didn’t have any of the saved draft in it when sent.
  
  I think I’ve learnt a valuble lesson!
  
  Jeolle, That’s what I usually do but for some reason I didn’t this time! STUPID GIRL!!!!
  - written 1 year ago

• I am having really big trust/insecurity issues, please can you help me I don’t wanna feel like this.
  

  I am going to jump in here and prepare to be flames.
  
  You are not RIGHT to feel the way you do. It is irrational. Your husband has done nothing wrong. Amateur dance classes that share partners are not uncommon.
  
  However… it is not OK for you to feel like this, it is not your fault, your feeling are just that - YOUR feelings. Even though your anger is an over reaction it is normal and understandable to feel some jealousy with a situation like this.
  
  If it is causing upset and pain then you need to work around this. Phone round some other dace classes in your area. Find one that is couples only or has couples that go and dance together exclusively. Don’t go back there - it’s not going to do either of you any good. And have a chat about why you feel like this try to work through your insecurities.
  
  I agree also on finding other things that you can do together - that would be great for you both.
  
  Good luck!
  - written 1 year ago

• what is this!
  

  Try having a quick gander through these. Or have a google yourself.
  
  
  http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=153
  
  http://www.biologicalunhappiness.com/AskDoc/doc439.htm
  
  http://psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-3083.html&fromMod=popular_personality
  
  http://www.healthboards.com/boards/archive/index.php/t-122247.html
  
  http://ask.metafilter.com/66517/Is-compulsive-lying-linked-with-any-recognised-mental-disorders
  
  
  
  The thing is, we can’t diagnose you, only a trained psychologist or psychiatrist can with your help. You need to go and see someone about this if it is causing you issues. No one will ever be able to get close to the real you until you can stop. The good news, though, is you’ve not only admitted it to your self but you’ve written it down. That looks to me like you’re ready to do something about it.
  
  Good luck!
  - written 1 year ago

• this day, 31st august 1984, i was born.
  

  Oh and one more thing……
  
  What kind of cake have you got??
  - written 1 year ago

• im 13 and how tall will you be if you are 5 foot
  

  lol @ C&C
  
  I take it you mean how old will you end up if you are 5 foot 10 at 13. But if you mean your question literally I agree with C&C.
  
  I stopped growing at the age of 13 - so you may end up as 5 foot ten or you may be taller!
  - written 1 year ago

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