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• Dear helpers, posted (1 year, 3 months) ago
  In response to all of the posts complaining and/or petitioning lately about the site’s issues,…

• Does anyone know me here? posted (1 year, 4 months) ago
  I’m having one of those crazy moments of self-doubt and I really need to get it all sorted ou…

• HA! posted (1 year, 5 months) ago
  Wanna know what f*cked up thing my mom did now? She got drunk. Got upset, as she always does when s…

• While I’ve been on help, I’ve learned a lot. posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  I’ve learned how I don’t need to be attention-seeking to get what I need, I’ve lea…

• Every time I go onto help, I look at my notices, shouts, and invites. posted (1 year, 6 months) ago
  There always seems to be something like this figure: Notices: 104 Shouts: 0 Invites: 7 Impersonal no…

• So, the Day of Silence. posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  It’s technically tomorrow, but I did it today. For all of those who don’t know what it i…

• The help.com community… posted (1 year, 7 months) ago
  Tell me about it. Tell me what you love about it, describe it, everything. Anything that can describ…

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MittensInSummertime's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (3 votes) can u plz verify my friendster account!
  

  figure it out yourself. It’s not that hard. I’ll give you pom poms so you can cheer yourself on.
  
  - written 2 years ago – voted for by Hope, Kuvri (yodaluv12), nothx

• (2 votes) Nevermore.
  

  Oh come on.
  Listen to this, because it’s not something that’s heard often these days: whatever the hell you are, you obviously aren’t defined by the simple labels of “sane” and “insane”.
  Here’s the thing, Nine: they’re just words, created by humans, for the minds that humans can understand. If you really want to have a label, then by all means, choose one of those. But until you stop having others judge you and throwing things like this out there, you’re going to get all different opinions. Making polls like this only makes you seem desperate. Maybe you are, I don’t know.
  I think it’s time to stop listening to other people, and start listening to yourself.
  
  - written 1 year, 6 months ago – voted for by PersonalPandaParty, I left

• (1 vote) Dear helpers,
  

  It appears everyone is missing the point.
  
  It was:
  If we want to get help for help.com, then we need to do the helping. The problems aren’t going to magically fix themselves. So instead of complaining, let’s try to make the site the best we can possibly make it. By helping mods out, completely ignoring trolls, and helping anyone who needs help that comes here.
  
  We shouldn’t have to wait around for the site to change. It’s only up to us at this point, and I think we should stop whining about it and instead do something about it.
  
  I’m leaving now. I won’t be back for a while. Life’s getting busy and this site is too much of a distraction. Feel free to discuss anything here. But up there is my opinion. Take it or leave it.
  
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago – voted for by most-wanted-websites

• (1 vote) Mommy want to be…
  

  Hun, trust me, you’re not ready. It’s hard to wait, but remind yourself that what you see in children is not what you’re going to get. Having a baby changes everything. You essentially give up your life. First of all, there is the pregnancy. Especially at such a young age, it’s risky. Pregnancy is hard. Then the birthing process. You’ll probably be at higher risk, since you’re so young. If the baby has problems, you’ll need to deal with them financially and emotionally. It’ll take a lot out of you. After that, if you and your baby have made it this far, you need to start in on the world of real motherhood. You will have a new knowledge of bodily fluids that you never wanted to have. You’ll be tired out of your mind. It’s a full time job, and you won’t be able to go to school without being away from your child. No one to take care of them? Well, no more school. Babies cost money. If you’re not already bad off from the pregnancy and hospital care, well, you are now. Bottles, diapers, food, cribs, blankets, toys, doctor’s appointments, etc. Even I’m not sure of how much there really is to pay. If you aren’t in school, you can’t get a job. Your boyfriend might leave you. Can you even pay for your own expenses? It will be a struggle. A huge one. After this, you still need to raise your child. You need to know how to hold babies, change a diaper, know if something’s wrong, know infant care, know when to take them to the hospital, know everything. If you slip up on one thing, you put your child’s life in danger. It’s not just the essentials, either. You need to know how to do things that you’ve probably never heard of before. If you can’t afford something, your child will suffer. After getting through sleepless nights in the beginning while recovering from pregnancy while learning how to care for your child, they’ll grow into a toddler. Toddlers are just as much work as an infant. Do you know how to potty train? Do you know how to deal with a temper-tantrum? This isn’t a babysitting job. This is full time. You’ll have to read to them, love them, be with them every time they need you. You’ll have to deal with sickness, stress, and their suffering. Your life will be put on the back burner. By this time, a lot of married couples can’t make it through. Do you think you and your young boyfriend will still be together? By the time your child is two, you’ll be around eighteen. You’ll be struggling on your own. If you and your boyfriend are still together, you’ll be trying to work on your relationship at the same time. At the same time people your age are out partying and having fun with life, you’ll have a screaming toddler to deal with. If you think something like “I’ll still have SOME time for myself!”, you’re wrong. You won’t. You won’t even be able to take a shower or go to the bathroom in peace. You’ll have to brush their teeth, get healthy food onto the table for them, and make sure they go to the doctor and dentist when needed. You’ll have to make sure they’re happy, and loved. Don’t you dare get them involved in your personal life. If you’re struggling, they can’t know it. It will only hurt them. You’re the adult now, and they’ll be the child. No backing out. If you get pregnant, it’s life changing. I haven’t even gotten into the details. This is just the basics. The vague basics. I could be wrong about one or two things. But the rest… well… it’s all right.
  If you choose to have a child now, it will be the most selfish thing in the world. Remember these things as you think of your desire. Realize that you aren’t ready to be a mother. You’re just ready to love someone. One day, if you really want to be a mom that badly, I’m sure you will be. But make sure it’s when you’re ready. If you do it now, you’re doing it for all the wrong reasons. Try to focus on yourself, and what’s missing in your life that you’re trying to replace with a child. Are you lonely? Because really, having a baby will only increase the loneliness. You will never feel more alone.
  So the next time you feel “ready” to become pregnant, think of the reason behind that instead. Think of what I’ve said in this response. You know in your heart that you aren’t ready.
  
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago – voted for by Dragon_Lady

• (1 vote) God is not a person.
  

  If “God” isn’t a person, then why are you still attributing human characteristics to “Him”?
  One more thing: this isn’t a new theory. In fact, I think that’s what the humans who created “God” meant “Him” to be like. If not, they were just trying to control people into their beliefs.
  Humans are so self-centered, we believe everything is like us.
  
  - written 1 year, 5 months ago – voted for by nothx

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• Dear helpers,
  

  It appears everyone is missing the point.
  
  It was:
  If we want to get help for help.com, then we need to do the helping. The problems aren’t going to magically fix themselves. So instead of complaining, let’s try to make the site the best we can possibly make it. By helping mods out, completely ignoring trolls, and helping anyone who needs help that comes here.
  
  We shouldn’t have to wait around for the site to change. It’s only up to us at this point, and I think we should stop whining about it and instead do something about it.
  
  I’m leaving now. I won’t be back for a while. Life’s getting busy and this site is too much of a distraction. Feel free to discuss anything here. But up there is my opinion. Take it or leave it.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Dear helpers,
  

  I stand by my point, and I agree with yours all the same.
  Goodnight.
  Goodbye.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Dear helpers,
  

  [quote Taringail]SHUT UP AND BE NICE AND HELP PEOPLEThat may not have been your intentional message..but that’s just the thing. People are trying to help without considering their own messages, thusly hurting not just their point, but the feelings and perceptions of others, which leads to our current problems.You want a solution, but this post isn’t it. I commend you for the effort, but hope you’ll be a little more thoughtful in the future. No one’s perfect, I know this especially well, but this could have been drastically better.[/quote]
  
  Of course this post isn’t the solution. It was never to start a revolution. All I wanted was it to be out there. Whatever everyone else does with it is up to them. And thankfully, all you’ve done is reinforced my point.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Dear helpers,
  

  I think the talk and communication is quickly moving on to desperation and uselessness. There have been repetitive requests and it’s starting to feel as if some of the magic is gone from what used to be a fantastic and beautiful place. The “shut up about the ___” wasn’t to be taken so literally, it was more in a joking manner. I’m not placing blame, or intending to hurt people. I’m trying to make the point that even if there are millions of things going wrong, we still have the power to work through them and come out better than before. I’m definitely not telling everyone to shut up and appreciate what they have, I’m asking everyone to help each other out. I think we can work together and create a place that was better than it was before all the problems came up. But to do that, I think we need to take a step back and look at what a great opportunity we have here. There is an entire site that can be molded by the users. We want a legacy and a feel of a site that can fix itself, rather than a feel of helplessness on a site that’s called help.com. Right now, if we want a change, we need to initiate it. There is no magical cure. There is no admin flying to the rescue, and there are no self-solving problems.
  
  I hate feeling like this site is going downhill, so let’s start pushing.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

• Dear helpers,
  

  [quote Chameleon]I think we all do appreciate what we have - otherwise we wouldn’t be here. No one is saying they don’t love this site - we all do. But I see a problem with telling everyone to shut up. I think user suggestions are essential input in any forum. The Internet and technology change and grow with the times and so should any healthy site.[/quote]
  
  Of course a site should grow and change, but my suggestion is simple: instead of complaining, let’s do something to help ourselves out. Complaining has proven to get us no where. Very little progress has been made. All I want is for us to see what’s right in front of us instead of lamenting on what’s wrong. User suggestions are all well and good, but they’ve gotten us no where so far. I don’t want to sit around and whine. I want to make this site into something amazing.
  - written 1 year, 3 months ago

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