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• ok so i met this girl. posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
  We met at school and she is very funny. I like her and every time I see her inbetween classes she sm…

• Dating Tests and how to avoid them. posted (2 years, 1 month) ago
  I went out with a girl that I met at school. I know she likes me, but she showed up to the date lat…

• When your life is stale and snapping out of it isn’t working. posted (2 years, 2 months) ago
  I would say that I have a decent life food home job all basics. I am the kinda person who learns …

• I am just feeling so sad lately. posted (2 years, 3 months) ago
  I know that its all up to me to make my life better and its all up to me to be happy. I am working 2…

• Simpsons Movie a funny disappointment. posted (2 years, 3 months) ago
  Did anyone else notice that all the good joke were in the trailers? WTF?…

• My boss has started to take away my responsibilities does that mean i might get fired? posted (2 years, 3 months) ago
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• How do people stay focused. posted (2 years, 3 months) ago
  I have a newish job and i tend to get distracted this is a big problem facing my development in the…

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needana's Top (3) Replies by other users' votes

• (1 vote) I’ve “just been myself” for the past 6 years and it hasn’t gotten me a single girlfriend…
  

  This is the most common problem ever. Ever. Ever. The problem is not the girls and it not you. Its your attitude women want a nice guy or so they claim. But the problem is they also want a guy with confidence and unfortunately that usually means jerks. Here is the truth you are a guy that is to be desired and until you convince your self that you are desirable girls will smell it on you. Nothing is less attractive then a guy who doesn’t think that they deserve to be with a girl.
  Anon suggested that you read The Game by Neil Strauss and that might help a little, but it is not the bible no matter how much they try to make it seem that way.
  Listen how would it make you feel if I could assure you after a short correspondence with me I could make it so you never have this problem again. Start with this think of five things that you want in a women. make the list then shout it to me and we will talk from there.
  You don’t deserve to feel like this anymore and I wont stand for it.
  STONE
  
  - written 2 years, 2 months ago – voted for by Nyxotic

• (1 vote) ok right now im really depressed because of a family problem.
  

  Be careful but it seems evident that you should try to get out of the house. Maybe you have a friend that will let you stay at there house. I assume your young but I don’t know how young so please tell us.
  Your dad is nice to your friends because they can help him get weed or vice versa(not that weed a lone is a bad thing). You should if nothing else try to make new friends.
  Talk to your counselor at school but be careful of what you say because by law they have to report abuse. If you want to stay with your family or have to stay then you should talk to someone at church–most of the time I would say seeking counsel at church is bad but they are the only ones who will keep the secret. If he ever hits your mom, your sister or you I beg you to leave. Call the police and say you will only press charges if they promise to take you away.
  I too have experienced things like this and I guess i should tell you that you are not alone and there are people out there who will love you and take good care of you and you dont have to live like this anymore.
  Thats all I got now more to come.
  
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago – voted for by katie!

• (1 vote) hi, i have a problem with a girl
  

  You will find that at this point you don’t need her to love you. You feel bad but not for the reason you thought, you care about her more and it sux that she doesn’t feel exactly the same way.
  Man it will be ok, but if you want her to tell you she loves you and do it with feeling then right in front of her ask her best friend (her bf must be a girl and not you) if she has ever been in love. when she says yes whisper in your gf’s ear and say I should of fallen in love with her. Then walk away.
  I am assuming that you probably wont have the balls to do that, but it will work if you do. Anyways it will be ok there is a lot left for you to experience in life and your GF in the future will only be a memory. And now this moment how you react and how you act will decide whether it will be a good memory or a bad one.
  
  Good luck and keep your head up.
  
  - written 2 years, 3 months ago – voted for by JustVisiting

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• I’ve “just been myself” for the past 6 years and it hasn’t gotten me a single girlfriend…
  

  read what fc2 wrote again. This is great advice nothing is better when it comes to meeting women as learning from those who are good at it. A hint all of those guys are bad at talking to women because they honestly don’t listen or care, but they are confident so its game over.
  - written 2 years ago

• I have never felt so lost in my entire life.
  

  When each one of us as humans find that our lives do not run or even crawl at the pace we want we turn to an inner depression. You are not alone. Your problem is not your circumstance and its not how employable you are its about your mind set. The truth that successful people don’t want you or me or anyone to really find out is if you want something you must take it. Its yours just grab it. I hate it when what I say seems so cliche but its just how it works.
  
  Listen take some initiative and thrust all those who bring you down out of your life for now. Pick something that you really want to peruse and then get a phone book and call every place in that field asking if they have any openings. No matter your experience and references you will find a place and then when your in the interview just be someone that you would want to hire and dont lie too much they will wave you forward. At that point you will have begun to succeed and your confidence will grow.
  
  Basically get in the game and kick a** you will be fine start right now.
  
  Ps talk to your bf about this or you are just lying to him.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• ok so i met this girl.
  

  yeah it seemed to work out just fine.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

• What do you write to someone in prison?
  

  Listen everyone is going to be mad at him and chastise him right now. His mom dad whoevers around. Everyone will tell him what he did wrong and right everyone is being critical. Try this be the one person in his life that is suporting him right now. If he writes back and brings it up then yeah tell him everyone makes mistakes or whatever but until then. Ask him if you can send him a care package be that person that while he is in turbulence is a calm steady hand a wave of kindness if you will.
  Just be nice and sweet and he will figure the rest out.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

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  all i can say is this is how everyone feels before life begins to suck.
  - written 2 years, 1 month ago

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