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• i need help with my mom.
  

  [quote chev.jame]I think you’ve got too much on you, kid. Sooner or later, it’s going to really get you down. You need some H-E-L-P!!! Make an appointment with her doctor to see what kind of help is available . . . mental health counseling, visiting nurses, etc. This will break you if you keep trying to do it alone. You need to kick your uncles dead in the rear end and tell them you need their help! It may be that your mother may have to go to a nursing home. I know it’s hard, kid. But it doesn’t sound like you have any life of your own, and your mother’s illnesses prevent her from knowing just how much all of this is bringing you down. So, get some help, and get it pronto! And do something for yourself! I commend you for your devotion, which is indeed rare these days, but realize that when your mother gets to the point where she needs 24/7 custodial care, you will not be able to provide that. Again, get help! If your mother is on a disability, there may be more services she can use that will take the burden off you. Also, if you have to roost on your uncles’ desks until they do something, then roost! Don’t take “no” for an answer![/quote]
  
  I agree you cannot do this on your own. My mother has damentia we went through her doctor for help. Could your mom also have some dementia? Start with her dr My mother is on medication now and stable at the moment. Its not easy trying to mother your mother. You don’t need to do it alone. If you can’t get your mother to the doctor you could have her sent to the ER in an ambulance.
  Hope things get better soon.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• hi im 15 and might be pregant i dont know what to do
  

  Hi there how long have you been feeling this way? I had a rough childhood and would ask God to please take me. We are all here for a reason. Please talk to someone. Do you have a close friend or family member you can confide in? You need to find out for sure if you are pregnant. Do you have a boyfriend? If you are pregnant he should help you figure things out. There is a solution for every situation it just isn’t always clear. First off see a doctor maybe the doctor can steer you in the right direction. Please don’t hurt yourself there are crisis hot lines that can help you. There may be a clinic where you live you could go to. Don’t give up take one thing at a time.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• Hello, I am a 34 yr old mother of 5 with one on the way.
  

  Have you tried to pray> Sorry wish there was more I could do. Have you gotten your tax return? You should be getting some money soon from the government. Maybe you could get a loan. Have you tried to get one online? Then you could pay it back when you get the tax return?
  There has to be new laws and help for people like us who are just above the poverty level. If you were a drug addict you could get help.
  Ten years ago I became disabled after having a minor medical procedure that almost killed me. I spent eight weeks in a coma and had to learn everything all over again. I worked for my state 15 years but in factual added up to 9.7 because of working parttime while raising my kids. I had to work 10 yrs to receive benefits and because I worked for the state social security was not taken out. I am not elegible for SS disability because my husband supposibly makes too much. I have been in and out of the hospital since and my condition is chronic. I tried calling my state rep but, was told I had to wait until my husband retires in order to get anything. My husband has worked two jobs for years. In January he was let go of his second job. My son is blind and receives SSI he has been paying a couple bills for us. Last week he decided to move out He is 21. I take care of children at home for friends and family. I make enough money for groceries and gas to bring the kids to school. I don’t go out my daughter brings the kids to and from school. I go to the grocery store once a week. That is my life. I know it is off subject but, sometimes when I see others who are worse off than myself then I don’t feel so bad.
  I wish I could help you. Please don’t give up.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• Hello, I am a 34 yr old mother of 5 with one on the way.
  

  There has to be something you can do. I almost lost my home a few months ago. My husband was working 7 days a week also 2 jobs not easy. In my life when it rains it pours so I do have sympathy. Have you tried to call some local organizations for help? Call your local state representitive thats what they get paid for. Call a radio station you never know…… Have you tried family and friends? Do you own your own home? What about disabilty benefits? Welfare office? Don’t give up there has to be a way. Call your power company and plead with them get a letter from your doctor. Don’t give up some how some way help will come to you.
  - written 5 months, 2 weeks ago

• My gf dumped me friday night.
  

  Some things are just not meant to be. I know you feel betrayed and think your life is over, but, it is not. most everyone has been hurt by love. yes it hurts so bad that you never want to feel that way again. was this your first true love? she could have wanted children all along or she could have changed her mind. Has she really moved on so fast? Maybe you can get together and ask her why she changed her mind. I believe things happen for a reason. I still remember my first love and I have been married almost twentyfive years. You never forget but, the pain does lesson. And if this isn’t the one your meant to be with you will find someone else. It happens when you least expect it. don’t give up love will find a way. for now try putting your focus on something else. If need be get some help. Pain is just part of our lives. It somehow makes us stronger. maybe its better you found out now that you two may not be compatible what if you got married? How would you feel if she waited til then to tell you? Maybe she agreed with you because she didn’t want to lose you? Maybe she couldn’t hold it in any longer and needed to tell you the truth. Maybe she decided to be honest with you and hoped it wouldn’t of mattered you might change your mind.
  I am glad you came here for help please don’t hurt yourself reach out to someone for help. I pray things will be better soon for you.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

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