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  by Richard Quek There was once a boy who wanted to seek the secret of success. One day he approache…

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  Once upon a time there was a wise man who used to go to the ocean to do his journal writing. He had…

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sam123's Top (5) Replies by other users' votes

• (2 votes) why should i live?
  

  We all love you
  
  You are Worthy
  
  Do not undermine your worth by
  comparing yourself with others.
  It is because we are different
  that each of us is special.
  
  Do not set your goals by what other people deem important.
  Only you know what is best for you.
  
  Do not let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past nor for the future.
  By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.
  
  Do not give up when you still have something to give.
  Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
  It is a fragile thread that binds us to each other.
  
  Do not be afraid to encounter risks.
  It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.
  
  Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find.
  The quickest way to receive love is to give love;
  The fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly;
  In addition, the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
  
  Do not dismiss your dreams.
  To be without dreams is to be without hope; To be without hope is to be without purpose.
  Do not run through life so fast that you forget
  not only where you have been, but also where you are going.
  
  Life is not a race, but a journey
  to be savored each step of the way.
  
  http://www.inspiringthots.net/movie/i-am-alive.php
  
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago – voted for by mauri, -Camila-

• (1 vote) cutting is a big problem i cut 10-20 times a day!
  

  I know it is not easy but try to distract your self
  by meditation, exercise, talking to people you can trust,
  helping people etc.
  Try to do things that make you happy.
  This will reduce you stress.
  If you feel you are clinically depressed
  seek professional help.
  
  This might help
  
  Disappointment and Perspective
  by Kim Eickhoff
  
  Being disappointed is all about perspective. It took me a long time to realize this. I was under the impression that if someone did something I didn’t like, or a situation evolved that I wasn’t happy with, then I had the “right” to be disappointed. Of course the disappointment always led to me having the “right” to be upset, depressed, frustrated or even angry. After all, the situation didn’t turn out the way it was supposed to, or a particular person didn’t behave the way I believed they should. Therefore, it was disappointing to me and I felt let down. I never once thought it was just my perception of the matter that was causing my disappointment and that I could control this!
  
  What I slowly began to realize through studying myself, as well as paying attention to others around me, was that those things that would upset me, would not upset someone else. I also noticed that those things that appeared to be the biggest deal to someone else, only made me laugh. So what was going on? Obviously, it couldn’t be the situation itself because that was the one constant thing in each equation. What did change was who was interpreting the situation. That was what was different. So I began to wonder if my perception of a situation, any situation, was something I could control? Could I change the way I perceived something, and therefore, change my emotional reaction? I discovered, that yes it was possible. I wasn’t necessarily in control over what happened to me, or around me, but I was definitely in control over how I responded to those situations.
  
  I began to play with this idea a bit. I believe that the people in our lives are great mirrors for how we think and behave, and therefore, can be great educational tools. So I started to focus on the people at work, my fellow employees as well as the customers. I began to pay close attention to what it was they were complaining about and the reasons behind their getting disappointed or upset. I would perceive the situation through their eyes, and then I would force myself to step back from the situation and see the bigger picture. What I always got from this exercise was a different perspective.
  
  What I began to see over and over again was that when most of us get upset it is for one reason and one reason only. The universe is not behaving the way we believe it should behave. This could mean that we didn’t get the raise we believed we were entitled too, so we become disappointed. If we had not expected a raise in the first place, however, we never would have been disappointed would we? It could also mean that someone does not treat us in a particular way that we believe we should be treated. Or our dreams don’t turn out the way we believe they should have turned out. Or an investment didn’t work out the way we thought it would. Or someone dies before we believe they should die. It can be as heavy as that. I am not saying it isn’t sad, but at the same time it isn’t our choice to say how long someone is to live, now is it? Those are our perceptions of what we want, of how we want the universe to behave. When we get disappointed, we never stop and think that it is our perceptions or beliefs that are wrong. We think it is the universe that is wrong because of how we feel personally! That is a pretty grand stand to take when you think about it.
  
  So how do we change our perceptions? By becoming more aware of what your perceptions and beliefs are. You cannot change what you do not understand. So spend some time looking internally and when you become disappointed, think about what is disappointing you. Is it really the situation or the person, or is it because they are not behaving in a way you believe they should behave? Then slowly as you do this, force yourself to look at the bigger picture of what is going on. Force yourself to see the situation from a new perspective and offer positive spins on what has happened. I believe that the more you do this, the less you will be disappointed because you will stop taking things so personally. You will also begin to realize that the way things turn out are the way things are supposed to turn out, whether they are in line with your beliefs or not. This will lead you to feeling more in control of your emotions as well as of your behaviors and actions. You will also be able to use any challenge as an opportunity to grow, develop, and move your life forward, because you will not continuously be knocked down by disappointment.
  
  - written 1 year ago – voted for by Beata

• (1 vote) ANGER!
  

  Anger is a secondary emotion, which is to say it is a feeling which follows inevitably from another feeling. We always feel something else - a primary emotion - first. As an example, the feeling of anger is triggered by such events as being afraid, attacked, offended, forced, controlled, trapped, interrogated, or pressured.
  
  Anger is inevitable, therefore it must always be justifiable.
  Anger is the feeling, not the behavior.
  
  Good reasons for anger ( controlled )
  
  1. Anger is an intense emotion. It is evidence that we feel strongly about something or somebody. We don’t feel angry with people who don’t matter to us. If we allow it to, it can help show us what we value and what we lack, what we believe and what our insecurities are. It can help us become more aware of what we feel strongly about and which emotional needs are important to us.
  
  2. Anger which is embraced helps us in several ways. First it raises our self-awareness. Second, it helps us communicate more precisely. Third, it helps us learn more quickly who respects our feelings and who we want to spend time with.
  
  3. Paradoxically, embracing our anger helps us feel more in control. When we allow ourselves to acknowledge that we are feeling provoked, we can take control of our response. We feel better and are healthier when they have a sense of control over their lives.
  
  4. You won’t succeed a hundred percent - after all, under stress we regress - but you could feel a lot better for trying.
  
  
  Bad reason for anger ( uncontrolled )
  
  1. Anger makes us unhappy
  2. when we are angry we don’t communicate well
  3. Anger may lead us to harm others physically
  4. Anger destroys trust and contributes to our sense of guilt and self hatred
  5. Anger destroys relationships
  6. Anger brings harm
  7. Anger creates fear and obscures the mind….etc
  
  by Deborah cox
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by stars in the SKEYES

• (1 vote) Hello again I was wandering what do yall think of life ..
  

  The purpose of life is to make ourselves happy, to concentrate on the good things and even on how we can improve things for ourselves and others.
  
  “Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don’t find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness. Self-actualization is a process of discovering who you are, who you want to be and paving the way to happiness by doing what brings YOU the most meaning and contentment to your life over the long run”. by David Leonhardt
  
  The experience of happiness is one of those general terms we use to say, “I feel good emotionally.” People use different terms to describe what feels good for them. For someone it might be excitement, passion, exhilaration, fulfillment, freedom, feeling fully alive with inspiration and joy. For another it might be more peaceful, content, capable, hopeful, satisfied, and comfortable feeling. Whatever you call it, it just feels darn good. Our natural state of being is to be happy. When you remove all the uncomfortable emotions like, self doubt, depressed, hateful, fearful, worried, unsatisfied, bored, grief, shame, guilt, discontent, anxious ,annoyed, angry, irritated, stressed, frustrated, upset, down, sad, envious or jealous….etc
  
  Happiness is not pleasure although they can appear similar. Pleasure is enjoyment of an outside stimuli. You might find pleasure in buying a new car, or in going on vacation, or having friends over for dinner..etc Pleasure requires an external stimuli for you to experience it. Happiness is a belief about yourself and the outside world happiness is born from the internal workings of our own minds.
  
  “Conventional wisdom have said that happiness lies with one self and no one can make you happy and genuine happiness is a state of contentment, a peace of mind
  and sense of well being regardless of outward circumstances going on in your life”
  
  “People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by Hope

• (1 vote) Personal Opinion
  

  I do not know much about cutting but this is what I found about cutting on net
  
  Most people who cut aren’t attempting suicide. Cutting is usually a person’s attempt at feeling better, not ending it all. Although some people who cut do attempt suicide, it’s usually because of the emotional problems and pain that lie behind their desire to self-harm, not the cutting itself.
  
  Cutting often begins on an impulse, “It starts when something’s really upsetting and you don’t know how to talk about it or what to do. But you can’t get your mind off feeling upset, and your body has this knot of emotional pain. Before you know it, you’re cutting yourself. Cutting can be habit forming. It can become a compulsive behavior — meaning that the more a person does it, the more he or she feels the need to do it. Although cutting may provide some temporary relief from a terrible feeling, even people who cut agree that it isn’t a good way to get that relief. For one thing, the relief doesn’t last. People who cut or self-injure sometimes have other mental health problems that contribute to their emotional tension. Cutting is sometimes (but not always) associated with depression, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, obsessive thinking, or compulsive behaviors. Younger teens are more likely to cut — perhaps because older teens know other ways to deal with problems.
  
  http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html
  
  - written 1 year, 1 month ago – voted for by xxxburningflowerxxx

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• My Friend..is dieing..and i fell for her to..
  

  You are going through a difficult situation and death is a very difficult thing to accept, I’m sorry I don’t have anything better to say, Just be there for her and try to do all the things she likes to make her happy.
  - written 12 months ago

• Asking someone out to homecoming dance.
  

  I really don’t know but you can try this just go up to her and ask straight up I was wondering if you would like to go to homecoming dance with me, at this point you pull a flower from behind your back. Pink rose or another pretty type of flowere, the important thing is that the expression be genuine.
  - written 12 months ago

• What is the largest coral reef in the world?
  

  you are right xeno I just google and found out
  The world’s largest coral reef is the Great Barrier Reef, located just off the northeastern coast of Australia. Much of the 1200 mile (1900 km) long reef is protected as a marine park.
  - written 1 year ago

• I am in very dire needs of a loan.
  

  http://www.digitalcharity.com/
  - written 1 year ago

• what is tin found?
  

  I did not know it was a home work question
  next time I will be more careful.
  - written 1 year ago

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