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• (1 vote) My life has gone down hill, from great to horrible.
  

  It hard to be optimistic when a big part of your life may seem like its horrible when you compare it to other people. Don’t compare your life to others who you think have it better. Judge your life by your own standards, and instead imagine if people were in your position. Most of the time you’ll realize that you’re probably handling your situation a lot better than most people could. It’s hard to move from place to place so often in such a short period of time, especially at your age, but there are good things about it too. You become more versitle with every new person you meet. You learn how to deal with different people, and have fun with different people, and just be happy with whoever, wherever you are. That will help you tremendously when you get older, because the majority of wish they could do that. NEVER try to be someone you are not. You’ll soon come to realize that other peoples opinions only mean something when you allow it to have meaning in your life. So forget about all the negative things that people tell you, and dont let it effect your mood. They dont know who you are and they dont walk in your shoes. Dont ever try to change because someone else doesnt like you. Only change for yourself.
  
  “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
  -Ralph W. Emerson”
  
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago – voted for by poda0

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• ok so,I have trust issues.
  

  I have a lot of say but im going to make this short cause its getting late. I’ll post more later maybe.
  
  I dont think its a good idea to tell him you want a relationship again. If there is a relatioship to happen, and your not sure if the other person wants it, i feel that its ALWAYS better to just let it happen. If you guys are meant to get back together then it will happen either way, with or without the asking. Yea you need to know, but doing any form of asking will make the situation extremelly uncomfortable for him if hes at all not ready. If he wants to be with you right now theres almost ABSOLUTELY no way that you two wont get back together considering that you guys are still practically at the moment dating. Just keep doing what your doing. Dont act jealous around him, and DONT act NEEDY. Let things go the way they are now. Keep hanging out and act like you’re both dating, and keep moving things into the “relationship” level. I.E. sex if you guys have done that before, movies, long walks on the beach, blah, and more blah. I know that it kills you that you dont know, but trust me, he will leave you any other way if you asked him or not. It will scare him away if you ask him and hes not ready. I’ve been in his situation plenty of times, and its always the same. Whenever the girl pulls the question, its a turnoff, and i cant explain it, it just is. Put yourself in his position and imagine if a guy asked you too early. It kills the mystery and suspense in the relationship. This may sound cruel, but if you’re good at teasing.. DO IT. Remind him of what he wants but you’ll only let him have if he deserves it, and use that to you’re advantage, cause its the biggest one you have.
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago

• here is my rant.
  

  The best answer i always come up when it comes to my family is just telling them the total HONEST truth to how you feel and WHY you feel that way. If they still think you’re a bad person and you hit a road block, then perhaps you should start thinking that maybe they just arent very good at being a nice person themselves, which doesnt make them a bad a person, it just means they never were fortunate enough to have that “nice” someone to teach them what it really means to be a good person.
  
  On the flip side, if you keep showing your niceness through their biterness, there will be a day where your mom will realize what it truly means to be a “good” person, through you. And theres a respect there that grows thats uncomparable to a regular son/daughter/mother/father bond, since its you that has taught them what it truly means to be a “good” person.
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago

• I am unhappy - depressed - because my mind perceives
  

  You sound pretty pessimistic there. So whats this “posssible” happiness? Guess you don’t believe in the saying “Nothings impossible” ? Don’t limit yourself to what you can achieve by creating the barrier of “It’s not gunna happen” right from the start. If you dont think its possible then you wont even think of ways to make it happen. If you at least think of things that ARE possible then you may not actually reach you’re goal, but you’ll get a helluva lot closer to your goal believing that it is possible than believing its not. Please don’t tell me you like some hot girl and shes never going to like you. ; )
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago

• Ok does anyone have any tips to help me not hate school!
  

  Lock yourself in a room with no distractions and dont come out until you’ve figured out EXACTLY what you want from your life, and what will make you feel content while you’re remembering all the great things you’ve accomplished while you’re lying on your death bed. Then use school as starting point to reach those goal.
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago

• I broke up with my ex for the second time a couple
  

  What exactly has she done to break your heart TWICE? Did you break it off with her or did she break it off with you? If you’re running back to her everytime then that may be a sign that you’re needy. Being needy is the best way to have a girl running in the other direction as fast as she possibly can. For whatever reason you two are apart, it sounds like its more hurt than its worth. You have to draw a line for yourself. A line that doesnt kick people away and have NEGATIVE feelings of hurt or resentment towards the other person, but a line that respects YOURSELF. Dont allow people to cross that line and cause you feelings of hate. Its true that some guys or girls may have anger or hate in a relationship, but i think in most cases, its just the other person putting their foot down and telling the other person to back off, cause they have NO right to cross a boundary that will effect your own emotional well being, in any way.
  - written 2 years, 4 months ago

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