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Awww..sweetie. We all had those times. You brought right back to middle school with this. I worried about that all the time, and really the best thing you can do, is go and have a good time no matter what.

hmm…sweetie, i think everyone’s terrified of it on one level or another, and those who say they aren’t are full of $h!t. But yes, i think the definition is being radically opposed to violence. Do you feel you are too far from the middle? Maybe you should explore why you feel this way. And no problem hun, I’m here to help.

Sweetie, there is no need for you to die. Get a divorce, and screw what your parents think. This is your life, you are an adult. This situation is killing you mentally, emotionally and eventually it will get to you physically. Another point is why in the hell is your hubby not stepping in on your behalf and telling his family where to go? He should be supporting you, not them. Get out of this, it’s not healthy for you at all.

And to Chima: Marriage is not as bad as you seem to think. You sound jaded from bad experience(s). Yes there are marriages that were just bad ideas from the start, but there are also wonderful marriages. I know from experience. I have divorced from a bad one and landed in a wonderful one, which i am still in. Don’t give up on love for yourself.

Sweetie, i think you have your answer.

Hun, the reason why she isn’t stopping this behavior, is because you keep ignoring her. Step up and talk to her, tell her you are flattered but that you have no interest in that kind of relationship. Some people just don’t get the silent treatment, you have to spell it out for them. And as for the title of this post…It’s not what’s wrong with girls, it’s whats wrong with you… that’s what you really wanna know here.

Say you and a friend are in a convenience store and guy comes in, points a gun at them. In this situation, violence is called for to protect innocent people. You sneak up and bash him on the head with some weighty item or use a certain hold to incapacitate him to where he cant use the gun. Also, violence as a whole is a very abhorrent thing, but it also can be a life saving thing. What makes the difference is who is wielding the violence and their intentions behind using it.

Not always hun.

hmm…i don’t know if confronting will really get anything accomplished. Maybe just drop a few hints and see if she catches on…if she doesn’t, then i wouldn’t waste my energy on explaining it.

[quote chev.jame]Makes no difference if he’s fat, bald and “ugly.”

Pretty is as pretty does . . . as Forrest Gump would say![/quote]

What he said.

Well, sweetie, i’m here.

Why thank you Chunky! It comes from experience.

But what if came down to either you fighting, or that person you love dieing? Sometimes violence is necessary to save innocent people.

You’re very welcome dear.

Would you fight if a friend or family member was in danger? Would you stand up to someone who was endangering a person you loved?

[quote chev.jame]I’d think this Superman was a stand-up guy! Why? Because he did all of those things in spit of feeling “not macho,” or physically weak, or insecure, or not fitting the image of a “superhero”!

Guys who win the Medal of Honor in combat are often scared s***less. They just went ahead, anyway!

That’s what we all have to do. We can all come up with a million reasons to never do anything. We need to quit letting those negative thoughts rent space in our mind and evict them!

The heroes in our world don’t think of themselves as heroes. Great people don’t think of themselves as being great. Many great people admit to feeling insecure. They just go ahead and do what they have to do.

Everybody feels insecure and weak at times. What distinguishes the superior person from the inferior person is that the superior person forges ahead, anyway! ;-)[/quote]

Here, here!! Well said.