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• hhhhhhheeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllppppppp
  

  What exactly do you mean by explosive? What is the child doing?
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• my 18 year old son drank for the first time ,got drunk
  

  First of all even though he is eighteen I hope that you do not support him drinking especially seeing as how the the legal age is 21. Second of all the dammage is already done, it is his own fault for drinking and getting that drunk. The only thing that he can do now is apologize, ask for forgiveness, another chance, and give her alittle space to think. If she says “no its over” then he needs to use this situation as an example for the next time he decides to get that drunk or even drink at all, but most importantly he needs to be the one to confront the situation and as his mother you just need to let him know that you are there, but that it is his responsibility because if he thinks that he is responsible enough to drink then he needs to be responsible for his actions and the consequences of those actions.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• Taken down.
  

  Then why did you marry her? If this is what you want then you need to confront your wife about it and try to restart the flame. In order for you to have married her and have children with her then there must have been some sort of deep connection, unless you did it just because, like so many other people now a days, or because of her being pregnant, which is not a reason to get married. There is a difference from loving someone and being IN love with someone. A wife is who your IN love with. If not then it is your own fault for letting it get that way or for starting it that way. Before you go and get a divorce or cheat on her you should talk to her about it and do things together that will restart your relationship, sometimes that it all you need. A redo. Some suggestions are take her out on a date, no kids, no one but you and her, talk about something other than the kids or work, do things that will spark conversation, communication seems to always be the link to a deeper connection. Set aside time for just you and her alone and just BE with one another. Talk, go for a walk, go to the movies. Whatever, but just take her and yourself out of the everyday situation and experience something new, but the number one thing to do is talk to her about it and make sure that she knows that you want to try, if that is what you want. Confront it head on.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• my life seems to be worse than death please help I
  

  If your refering to suicide then this is not the answer. The problems in your life are not permanent, always remember that. What ever problems you are going through I’m sure someone is going through the same or worse. You have to think possitive and look at the good things in your life. Everyone has ups and downs, some people never get a good break in life, but just remember whatever problems come your way you have to keep your head up, stay calm, approach it with confidence and confront it head on in order to start solving and moving on. Dont be afraid to ask for help, and never approach it with fear. Life is to short already to bo afraid all the time. Do what makes YOU happy, dont live by what others do or tell you to do unless there is someone you can look up to who is a good role model and mimic them or confide in them. Here is quote that I got in fortune cookie, “Over every mountain there is a path, although it may not be seen from the valley.”
  REMEMBER everyone goes through hard times. You are the only one that is standing in your way from happiness, you have to confront yourself and ask yourself “What do I NEED to do to make myself and my life better?” Once you figure it out happiness will follow.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

• I am a loser.
  

  I don’t know what I even feel sometimes. There are times where I just sit there and stare off into space because I don’t know what to do with myself. There are times that I will go driving around with the intention of going somewhere but I can not ever decide where to go. My man gets mad at me for not making more decisions in our relationship. In which I get mad at myself. I have trouble talking to people let a lone asking them for help. I know that keeping things inside is self destructing, but every time I try to talk about things with anyone even my boyfriend I forget or get to nervous and end up not saying anything. When I have a problem I usually end up not doing anything about it except cry and beat myself up inside about it. I have tried everything to be happy and confident but………………………………I dont know. At work I play games all day insted of doing what I am supposed to do(dont tell anyone). I am really good at hiding my emotions and problems. Growing up I never had anyone to talk to and always felt alone and still feel alone even when I am not………I have tried going to church, but the ones that I have been to are all the same. Talking about “Look to Him and you will be ….” “Pray to him….” “Fear Him……”, I need a church that is going to tell me HOW not tell me the same things over and over again…………………I feel like I have missed out on a lot in my life because after elementary school I went from overly sociable to nonsociable to the point that when I got my promotion at work and I needed something to finish what I was working on insted of just asking I would put it off and just not do it…………..My prayers never get answered or maybe I’m just to dumb to see the answer.
  - written 1 year, 2 months ago

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