2008-07-08 17:17:21 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
kay girl. shout anytime!!
2008-07-08 17:16:23 on Does anybody remember the Funky Cold Medina?
i just pulled it up on youtube…hahaha!!!!
2008-07-08 17:14:45 on I’m turning 30 tomorrow.
oh my Gosh i’m such a schmoeboe: and Happy Birthday!!!
2008-07-08 17:10:39 on I’m turning 30 tomorrow.
Three things??? GIrl - this is spiritual warfare - you’re fighting for your SPIRIT. If you are down (and obviously have the time) you dont LEAVE YOUR ROOM until you are grateful. Pathetic to say but one day I wrote things i was grateful for for FIVE hours before I left the room!! (more of a statment on how dark/self pity/pitiful i can be)….but dont just do 3….do AS MANY as you can….you are protecting/putting out gratitude on each of those things…even simple things…being able to see, etc….I swear - your attitude will shift over time not to write for five hours (obviously!) but to PRACTICE writing and being SERiously grateful for the gifts/blessings you have. WORRYING is like praying for the wrong team/puttin gout all those dark thoughts and fears - its the opposite - so if you know how to worry, you know how to pray in gratitude!! hope i dont sound like a loon!
2008-07-08 16:59:20 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
augh….SAying that, not waying that…sheesh.
2008-07-08 16:58:48 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
OOPS!! I didnt realize you were Married!! I’m so sorry would never have said that had i known!! thought was just a boyfriend i am so sorry for waying that….also- she has resources for couples…hey, fyi, i shouted you…..
2008-07-08 16:48:48 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
ps you guys are much younger than me it was like that before for me too…dont despair! it gets better/goes away kind of like they say time heals all wounds essentially i just got tired of/wasnt able to get freaked by the same old tired traumas, sick an dtired of being tired…..
fyi with Joyce - you’d LOve her she’s TOTally hilarious - talks about her selfish horrible temper how her husband would be kicking it with the kids on teh carpet and she’d be pissed off - angry he was enjoying life while she was WORRying for them…she is just a hoot….and she’s BEEN through it…..she address all KINDs of bondages/stuff: fears, judging, getting offended, being too timid, being too mouthy (thats her problem has hilarious examples…)…and is just - well, very practical.
that sex piece - will go away with time. this is all new to you. pleaes too remember: joyce was incested for Years and had bad marriage - now has been married 30something years and says she was a nightmare for first 20 of them!! i’m sure she must have stuff on intimacy and being able to be open/not scared….
mostly - dont get in the place where you are spending so much energy saying When when when will this end how long how long …..just get busy pursuing the things that you know will help - get the resources, eat right, exercise daily….and find the resources that you know lift youup/make sense….that can make you laugh as well as give you TOOLS to move on. I swear - i hope she speaks to you/you can relate to her b/c she’s changed my life as well as all my friends’ lives too….even the ones who are anti-God! Dont worry about what is fair to him - right now focus on what you need for you….if it means maybe for a bit however long you may want to be single i dont know not suggesting but just saying - to me your focus maybe good if its on you getting peace/joy inside of you……whadaya think?
2008-07-08 16:37:28 on I’m turning 30 tomorrow.
GET A GRIP!!!! Enjoy. Dont let the spirit of fear take over you girl! (if youre a girl!) If youre at all into God get joyce meyer stuff on spirit of fear. if not - just kick that garbage out of your brain. list things youre grateful for. stick around this website see the fierce problems around and let that go. focus on the positive. volunteer for those with serious stuff in their lives - it will make you feel better plus keep you in perspective. yep sux not being age we were but we’re alive….can you walk? see? it’ll be ok. shake it off, write gratitude list every day…..
2008-07-08 16:33:40 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
brain not brin - brin isn’t a word! hehe
2008-07-08 16:33:04 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
if you are going to lookup -lookup the emotional healing one (joyce)….she lists actual list to getting well
decide to get well
stop feeling sorry for yourself and move on (things happen toeveryone but sounds like you dont have this problem)
get your mind off yourself - volunteer - help others (its amazing how this really works too)
etc. it sounds really dumb but her lists/advice works - and - she is very funny.
she talks about cant be pitiful and powerful at same time….really empowers to have backbone/not wishbone -and take charge — for me it worked….i just ffwd the god part and took the advice….anyway - i know it’ll happen cuz you really want it to….whateve rit is - I LOVE LIL BIT SHi - ‘tell past to bite you hard’ HA!! THATS the attitude she talks about. Also - we dont have to think every thought that drops in our heads…..get control….discipline over our thinking…..kick that Xxxx out of your brin and replace it.
TO me re: past affecting now: NOT LIKE BEFORE. NO WAY. BUT - i’m sure it does in ways i dont know, but NOwhere NEar - just an incidental….at least…to me….
2008-07-08 16:28:21 on Should I move back to the U.S?
still say no. you are the kid. need to focus on living your life. if she was sick, ok maybe - but she has friends (i’d think)….not healthy to me ..sounds sweet and i understand …but maybe i’m being unkind ….but i think healthier to do what you set to do ….and yeah see if she wants to see you (hi again fyi!) anyway good luck girl we’re rootin for ya!
2008-07-08 16:13:50 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
I would say - from start to finish w/the J. resources - not long - life just gets better and better….MARked improvement - very soon. But its what you put into it too. I read/listened to her every day (just walking, on headphones) or half hour daily….read a book a week or so of hers - did all the stuff she said - took it seriously. Its NOT tough either - really super practical - just different from teh whole I want, i think, i feel junk we are used to. Hers is more how to stop thinking wrong, being sad, etc. My traumatic event? omg - pick one. What you mentioned plus parents (both, separate houses) who disliked me intensely, had rage/abuse….growing up in closets, being assaulted practically daily, etc etc. Believe me - dark, ongoing and messed up stuff…..before I couldnt even talk/think about it w/out crying/ being totally freaked - now its like talking about going to the store to pickup cheese. And i’m essentially peaceful/joyful…grateful…yeah stuff happens but i’m not fighting to get out of bed/live or just get through the day without fighting wanting to die….
2008-07-08 16:09:32 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
For YEARS AND YEARS with counseling - NOTHING GOT BETTER. Just went around and around the same mountains….total waste of time and money and YEs the counselor was VERy nice - all of them….but it wasnt the way for me.
RIGHT AWAY - that VERY DAY - when I started listening to Joyce Meyer/getting her CDs and listening to her stuf and reading her books — RIGHT AWAY started to get better and got better every day. Also - she is HILARIOus - not boring….she really has something incredible - re: correcting wrong thinking, focusing on positive, how to get over hurts, you name it. Also - you can watch her daily on her website. Thats how it happened for me. ANd ALL MY Friends, most who dont believe in God or even care about that, ALL listen to her/watch her and their lives have improved.
2008-07-08 16:06:24 on Should I move back to the U.S?
no girl!!! live your life! your mom is grown, she’ll be okay. its good you are over there pursuing your dreams. i say stay - why go back to all that/for what?
2008-07-08 16:05:19 on How does someone get over a traumatic event?
i guess …to me…thats why counseling wasnt a good modality for me. even tho i like the counselor no they dont push, i too got stuck that way. anyway - itll be ok - you’ll find a way through.