live.enjoylife's shout trail with ~LazyDaze~ - Help.com

LoL yeah, don’t stay too long because you could get involved in a world war, or chat war..

found one in …chat!!! I’ve followed your advice and only rush in and out of there quick quick !!

Hiya :)
I am good ta, you?
Baby is due dec5th, but who knows if it will arrive then or not lol
No idea where the mods are, but then we only have a couple doing any work at the mo, I know ken is usually here untill late so he is probably in bed now.

hey girl how are ya? when your baby due? and …well - how come/where are the mods? there are some creepy posts out there - anyone on that or too late? (its 2am in states)….anyway hope alls cool.

i didnt know cnet got bought….(dont even know what cnet is !!) but yeah…its become kinda hinky…are there any other sites like this we can help/hang at? yeah…its a little wierd when half the posts are about help dot problems, whats wrong with that pic?!!! anyway - thx girl. youve my email keep in touch. i will too cuz i’m headin the same way as you…xx

I have NO idea whats going on, to be honest I hardly see any of the “drama” that goes on, all I know is that since CNET got bought the admins have gone the mods are stressed and people are picking up on the lack of involvment and takeing their frustrations out on others. This site is going down the drain in my opinion.

I SHOUTED Myself haha!! AGAIN!!! sheesh. in a sec i’ll tell about the (ugh) guy- tres pitiful. i should be on match dot com not help dot com haha. meanwhile….i was wondering - whats all the drama about anyway these past weeks? I dont want to post cuz dont wanna feed it - but is it like chat gone wild/out to posting? (hehe what u said aobut chat forever ago i’llnever forget was hiLARious….and stopped going into chat after that..i think your advice was super wise)…anyway - all i noticed is these weeks i’d put time in on a post only to have it dawn on me the post was b.s…..is that some of it? and then notice bickery posts back and forth not sure who why for what (dont really care tons just curiouss) just wondering: w hats beeeen happpppening???? and why? give your wisdom girl….if you dont mind anyway….

Yep evening/night here :D

Yeah, all ears, or should I say eyes? lol

hey you there?!!! GOOD MORN! (prob nite for you tho…)…wanted to ask u a q if youre up/on there

Yeah, totally pissed off at the immaturity level in this place grr.
Go to the friends list and next to me there should be a pic of an envelope, click that and it will allow me to see your e-mail.

metoo…dont even understand what all the bickering is - just have also noticed lots of posts about help dot com b.s. instead of actual help posts…sheesh! mild curiousity about who where when and then decided it was all like jr. high wars…kinda dumb. anyway girl - tell me how to open my email to you and i’ll do it/wld like to keep in touch.xx

the pitiful thing is when we met i had a fullon profession…was kinda happy to put that down for a bit…then got bored…i think this xxxx showed me more who he was (that i’d rather not have known thank you Very much) haha. also taught me: not planning to get in that position again anytime soon…its really vulnerable to be dependant …and then to be axed like that out of the blue/no explanation…i’m thinking there are lots of guys who, well, would just never ever do that..had thought he was one of those guys. now - i’m going to wait, and see, but gotta wonder…and think… how quickly things change. two months ago i’d have told you i have the best guy in the world. now…..
either way: always good to know the truth! gnite girl. i gotta sleep. hey - howre your kids anyway?

LoL well it is great you are feeling alot better, you have plans and enjoying it too that sounds wonderful!
I wish you al the best with it, sometimes a situation like that shows you what type of person you are, you would never have thought you were strong enough to do somethings before this but now you know you can do anything you want, that must feel to refreshing :)

oh - and p.s. thanks. if left alone during this i wouldve gone i n s a ne..who knew help would be such a …help. hehe

oh — I WISH. I was so shocked I jsut started crying and said, ‘I am so happy..’ PATHETIICCCCCC!!!! IT didnt hit me until I got off the phone. No worries though - the time and space thing is vast (i’m here 6 more weeks, go there and then am there months before will ’see’ him…a lot can happen in that time) plus he’ll sense a shift b/c before I was really trying to call/email/text lots - i thought i was saving my marriage…now….I know where I need to put my energies: having a BALL here, getting exCITed about being back there, and not even having this much up the food chain/priority list…sounds sad/pathetic…but i kinda wonder if this hasnt knifed the whole thing in a way, you know? we’ll see….its just difficult to see getting back to anything worth wanting after this. REAlly good when you realize you dont want someone…blah blah. The weird part: i waited for YEArs to marry, never wanting to split….so much for planning! now i feel free free free and know what i have to focus on. how FAst things can change, eh?? Are you like that? Once betrayed/mistreated…hard to want more…i didnt know he had it in him for that…good to know is all i can say. pity. used to think he was the best guy on the planet. whatever. here’s to Enjoying life girl *clink!!

It’s a good thing when you realize you don’t need someone when you thought you could not survive without them, and the way he treated you, you do deserve better, I bet he was stunned when you didn’t go crawling back like he no doubt thought you would :D

I KNow!!! The thing at first was such a shock that i turned into some pathetic weak mess i hardly recognized…had enough of that in about a week and was like, okay, f you, and then was moving onward and upward (my main fear/sorrow was a)finding work/way to support myself and b)meet someone new frankly) so I was SHOcked that was where he was at and MORe shocked thats where I was at!! The good news is I’m in the states,he’s in Australia (thats where he’s from) now, and we wont be able to get together for some time so its no big deal…who KNew!! I thought I’d be crying for joy for days…I think he waited about 4 days too long for me to have that response!! haha!!! Anyway - WHATever. All i can say is that innocent/being treated well (was for years) sheen is off and now i’m wondering - maybe i’m way too good for the guy??? hahaha!!! how’re things your end? and whatsup with all the posts of husbands and boyfriends turning out gay? i saw about four of them today…hmmm!

You mean your husband??
Sheesh what a nerve he has!
You don’t need that kind of stress, you have the right idea, get yourself sorted, be independant and maybe when you have got things how you want them you could start over with him~at the begining letting himknow that you really do not NEED him you can do fine on your own, that would buck his ideas up abit~ but then that could be why he wanted to work thing out again, because you have got on without him.. men are wierd things lol
Thanks for the update :)

hey- how are you girl? wanted to give you an update. the guy called, is sorry, wants to work it out, blah blah. the funny thing is i was THRilled at first then when got off the phone was like WTF??? The good news is this made me get off my xxx and get work, get a life….i think i’ll give it another go but have to say - kinda a little hesitant now…with that kind of b.s. pulled - hard to trust and frankly kinda pissed…know what i mean? either way all good. just wanted you to have an update of the latest (stupid) d r a ma.

There are still somelong term users here that pop in now and then and still some regular ones, it’s just what time you arrive to catch them here lol

I hope somepressure has been lifted for you, let you get some sleep now, I have to get off and do some housework :S
See you soon!

thx girl! i think for sure i’d turn it down if they didnt already get me a work visa (tons of paperwork, thousands of bucks) and weren’t so small/had other options…i guess i’m scared to commit to anything cuz right now i just want to commit to a bottle of gin (not really, i dont even drink, just theoretically you know??!!)…and probably even taking it, anything, is a reality sign that all this has happened and i’m now single. the big(gest) piece was that i dont like to be single - i have been and thats fine, but i liked that if in the states i could do online dating, meet people (friends and guys) and not be so lonely…but i think maybe since its all set up, and i can save money, it may be a good way to go…that way, when i come back, i’ll have some savings and not be stressed in that area….ugh. ugh. ugh. anyway thank you…i’ll keep you posted. hey - not that many people hang out in help long-term, huh? i only see you and lilies from before -is that how it goes? okay - i’m gonna get some sleep. thx again. xx

I hope I have helped :)
Try not to stress too much about it, I know easier said than done, you have till monday so time to think and stay calm about it.
Let me know what you decide, keep me posted about everything :)

thats what i want to do except i wouldnt be able to turn it down after monday - they are a tiny school and need time to find another teacher and get the work visa lined up. i think i maybe should take it because it would take the pressure off of finding work here now, focus on getting well (a good nights sleep omg if only) and then go back, if i dont prefer can quit it in december…or just stay a year…the place itself is AMAzing - the people very cool - i just had not planned on any of this so it all feels so alien/weird….you have helped me SOO much….also, i think it may be better i go back because i’m inclined to go sleaze around just for comfort which really isnt my style but it sounds so appealing - you know? i dont think thats a good thing to do but gotta say - i can see the appeal right now!! …anyway - i’ll give it til monday….either way, needing to get work anywhere wasnt what i had in mind…i thot i had a good husband….ugh. oh well - anyway - youve helped SOO much youve no ide a girl! xx

Ok, so you have to tell them on Monday of you want it or not right?
But you have untill August before you would start there?
That give you well over a month, maybe agree to the job and then spend the rest of the time in america doing what you want to do and if you find you are happier doing that you can always tun the job down…?

what i want to do is stay here in america, party a lot, get a rebound guy and find some kind of work…what i think i should do is go back and see if i like working there…i’m just scared/balking because i was so lonely/isolated there and there arent the things that there are here (groups, things to do) its pretty isolated … ugh. trying to go the way of my ’spirit’ ie stay here but it seems not so wise since i have a job….augh…i know i’m going in circles!

I think you already know what you want to do even if you feel unsure, you should go with your gut instinct, do what you mind said yes too…
Everything is going to feel odd you have had a huge thing happen but don’t let it cloud your choices now, as you said you wanted to do it for years and to be honest I don’t think there is a wrong or right time to do anything it is all about that first step, once you do that the rest will fall into place.

And I do not mind helping you at all, Thats what I come here for :P

to be honest i’ve been wanting to get a job/work in indonesia for YEARS - its hard to find work there (for an expat/foreigner) so i’m really lucky…i want to say the timing is so sad - but maybe its just what i need? if i thinkabout doing it for six months i dont feel so overwhelmed…too, i just had mylife cut off at the knees - i’m in shock…so i think whatever i did next would feel weird becaues one week ago i thought i was (relatively) happily married….i think you may be right - i can try to get inet at the house too - its just technology over there kinda not so great so i just go to inet cafe’s anyway thanks for spending so much time helping me….

Commitment is hard and seems like such a HUGE word, but sometimes it is easier to think of it a different way, instead of seeing it as being tied to something look at it as something you are adding to your life, another stepping stone to things you have achived (sp), life is all about doing and seeing as much as you can, learning and trying new things so you can look back and say “I did that”.

I hope I helped you and didn’t confuse you more, I am glad you asked me, made me feel useful :)
And no ones problem is any bigger or any smaller than anyone else’s no matter what it is, it is a problem for you so it is important.

fyi, the school/job is REAlly cool - its very small and all the people are laid back…they have an organic garden and its very free and creative…i LOve the people that work there - so its not like selling my soul…but it is, indeed, hard to commit to anything right now…and, also, i’m really aware that when in the states i at least have access to make friends more, etc…anyway…thats the whole deal…i know in the end even if i ask you and lilies and whoever else i’ll just have to decide myself…i’m just kind of in shock and feel like i’m a walk on part in my own life…feel really strange/out of place right now…i know it’ll pass but sheesh bleck!

thats what i WANted to do. the problem is that for me to work there they had to get me a work visa…its ready…and, also, the job (teaching) starts in august…i have to tell them by monday, i think, to be responsible if they need to look for someone else…THANK YOU so much for helping me/talking with me about this….i know people have bigger problems but i gotta say this isnt what id hoped for :)

Maybe set a date, give yourself a month where you are and see how you feel at the end of that time, asess yourself so to speak, you can always go back…
Main thing is to think of yourself and do what you want to do.

Sometimes money is not everything and even if it is something it cannot fix other parts of your life.
How much is your happiness worth to you?
Where do you feel you would be happier?
Even if you move back where things are a little less you do have family to support you and friends.
If you stay where you are you have materialistic things and nothing you can take with you when you die.
Think long and hard about what you tresure most in life and where you feel you belong.

hope you dont mind my asking but i am confused right now….part of me thinks it would be a Good thing to throw myself into work and be able to save money and not go on and on about my bleeding wounds ad nauseum (it is america here, thats our specialty haha)…part of me thinks it will be emotional suicide to go and not have emotional support there…but am unsure..the upside of there is that the culture (indo) doesnt really support wailing on and on/whining…so that may be a good thing …..waah waah…ok i’ll wait for your answer and thanks for listening.

i am tempted to stay but also wonder- well- i already have work there and i have an indonesian ‘family’ there (i have no family in america - well have them - but none of us ever talk/thats a mess)…but its tuff making friends there….

SO - the deal is this. i came back to L.A. i can stay in this tiny guest house (like a hotel with tiny kitchn etc) for free. i have inet access and can call friends (most my friends in santa fe, new mexico)…and technology good here but yet to have work. i have work waiting, decent money, back in indonesia in august — but i’m isolated there - no internet (could try to get but connection sucks) and am pretty isolated…i’m wondering: would you just go back and bank some money, or stay where i can get emotional support/do cultural stuff/not be so isolated?

my husband split w/me. it was really weird -i was living in indonesia- he came for a visit- i thot all was ok - then he TEXTed can you imagine…and that was that..a coupla weeks later he came and we had a great time the first day….then he just shut down and left. now i have little money no job not sure what to do…..

Hiya,
I’m good thanks.
I have time, whats up?

LAZY!!! Its live….I have a HUGE problem - you have a sec to shout w/me??? (fyi - how are you anyway? your kids? life?)

Hey girl!! you still preggers? (Gosh I hope so I guess thats not polite to ask??!)…I’m still in INdonesia…its still…well, third world village life yaaay! (anything better than us fascist regime!!)….thx for the xmas greeting!!! hope you had a great holiday/nw.yrs & alls well w/u girl…xx

Hi :)
How are you?

I am sending my Christmas greetings already, just incase I don’t see you here before the big day, I am sure I will but I would rather be safe than sorry!
So….

Hope you have a Fabtastic Christmas and new year!!!

Emily
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Hi :D
Hope you are well :)
I am just doing a friendly pop in shout that I do every now and then :)

Mass shout to all my friends, hopeing they stil love me even though I neglect them so often!

Thank you :D

I re-opened the post, seems allot of people noticed lol

CONGRATS!!!!!!!! I only just saw your post!! yaay girl!! **streamers***

Thanx

i saw one of your answers to a ‘depressed’ site…dont ask me i’m bored…or something God I LOL cuz I’m in that place a little bit tooo. I saw this and it made me smile - maybe it’ll pick you up too girl….shxx, cant find it - okay - well - hope ya feel better!!! if i ever find the link, i’ll send it along.
sheesh. ! xxx

LoL I don’t really know much about Bush, just that everyone thinks he is a wanker, but other than that I don’t really do polatics etc, so the songs about him would just right over my head lol

no- that was the other one i posted (bright eyes when the pres talks to god)…this is a different one….evidently i feel very strongly about this hehe…this song is REally beautiful checkit out its pink and the indigo girls and the video is great….and the song beautiful….if you dont mind to hear another song on that (tired but necessary) topic…xx

LoL I think I saw that one, was it with that leno guy?

ps the video is way cool tho and the post is to the presdient of the us in case ya wanna checkit out…